Ask Me Help Desk - What made you start lightening your skin?

DyanaGiselle. If you're so gorgeous already and skin lightening doesn't make a difference. How come when I go back to your previous posts it shows that you're trying to figure out why your hands smell funny when you apply bio claire to them. And you want to know why the bio clair threads are closed? Are you that desperate to use such a dangerous product? And the nerve of you to come on here and shun me. Lol. Oh the hypocrisy. And I'm not going to sit up here and say I look like this or I look like that. I know what I look like. I know that I like my features. But all is irrelevant without the proof of pictures. That goes for you as well. Oh and. How's that bioclaire coming along for you buddy?

I think she is referring to the reasons behind her lightening, not the act itself.

Oh. And just in case you try and go back and edit your posts... I've conveniently taken a screenshot. :) Turns out you wanted to get your hands on some mono too huh? That desperate? Willing to try the riskiest products? Even though you're already so beautiful? Mono? You want to depig? Hey. No shame. Just don't come at my neck when you have dirty laundry floating around the boards. Haha. "I'm already beautiful, Indian men stop me all the time" Then why were you trying to get your hands on some mono? Are your hands still raw from the bio claire? Lmfao. Sounds like me you're trying to prove to yourself that skin color doesn't matter. When CLEARLY if you're still that same complexion. The mono and bio claire did NOT work for you. That's too bad. But do NOT come raining on my parade. Because my skin has lightened and yours has failed to. Obviously.

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Originally Posted by dessaml

Well said girl;)

Thanks lol

Brown Deceit you cannot edit your answers after 24 hours, just letting you know so you don't waste you time with screencaps from January. :)

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Originally Posted by BrownDeceit

DyanaGiselle. If you're so gorgeous already and skin lightening doesn't make a difference. How come when I go back to your previous posts it shows that you're trying to figure out why your hands smell funny when you apply bio claire to them. and you want to know why the bio clair threads are closed? are you that desperate to use such a dangerous product? and the nerve of you to come on here and shun me. Lol. Oh the hypocrisy. And I'm not going to sit up here and say I look like this or I look like that. I know what I look like. I know that I like my features. But all is irrelevant without the proof of pictures. That goes for you as well. Oh and. How's that bioclaire coming along for ya buddy?

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Originally Posted by BrownDeceit

Oh. And just in case you try and go back and edit your posts.... I've conveniently taken a screenshot. :) Turns out you wanted to get your hands on some mono too huh? That desperate? Willing to try the riskiest products? Even though you're already so beautiful? Mono? You wanna depig? Hey. No shame. Just don't come at my neck when you have dirty laundry floating around the boards. Haha. "I'm already beautiful, Indian men stop me all the time" Then why were you trying to get your hands on some mono? Are your hands still raw from the bio claire? Lmfao. Sounds like me you're trying to prove to yourself that skin color doesn't matter. When CLEARLY if you're still that same complexion. The mono and bio claire did NOT work for you. That's too bad. But do NOT come raining on my parade. Because my skin has lightened and yours has failed to. Obviously.

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LoL

Someone's mad, apparently!

I know I joined a skin lightening forum - so you've wasted time posting all of that info. I never tried to delete or edit those post. I used bio claire, and was thinking of using mono. I was completely uneducated about bio claire and mono at that time (I'll get back to that later) but #1 - I'm doing skin lightening for a COMPLETELY different reason that yours (I'll get back to that later as well), and #2 - you're completely misunderstanding my posts/ point. My point is that you were (or still are) not unattractive to men because of your skin color, theirs plenty of men that like brown skinned women so that's not an excuse. As I stated in my post, I have several light skinned friends that don't get as much attention as me. You are either not a pretty woman (facial features wise), or you had a low self esteem that made men not even want to notice you. And its completely ignorant of you to say that lighter equals prettier, as if facial features don't count. Now back to the bio claire & mono topic. I wanted something that would actually work, and after reading reviews about bio claire on this forum I gave it a try. It lightened me to a dark caramel color (about Mary J Blige's complexion) but I stopped using it because I later found out that its harmful/ has steroids in it. I been stopped using it. If I was so "desperate", id still be using it now. I attempted to use monobenzone but was (thankfully) nearly scammed out of my money. I was completely uneducated about it, and thought it was just a strong lightening cream that would lighten me a few shades in a short period. I had no idea that my skin could've possibly depigged. So you have no idea what you're talking about. My reason for wanting to lighten in the first place is because I have strong indian/hispanic facial features (which I inherited from my Hispanic mother), so I want to just fully look it. You are fully black, and you want to look hispanic like me- that's so sad (you have a curly weave... MY hair is 100% natural curly hair growing from my head). You say I've failed to lighten... but sadly, you've failed to attract men, (like I have throughout my teenage years). So sad!

I feel like people are putting down women who have black features. I have features very similar to Gabrielle Union, so I guess I must be less pretty than someone who has Indian features? Huh? I mean I'm noticing a lot of snobby remarks coming from people who don't have traditionally black features, bragging about how they attract more black men and men of other races.

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Originally Posted by DarkSkinGirl

I feel like people are putting down women who have black features. I have features very similar to Gabrielle Union, so I guess I must be less pretty than someone who has Indian features? Huh? I mean I'm noticing a lot of snobby remarks coming from people who don't have traditionally black features, bragging about how they attract more black men and men of other races.

I don't know if that was directed at DyanaGiselle or not but if it is I think you misunderstood her post... She is not saying that she attracts more men than people with 'black' features at all, I understood it as she was saying it was either that person A does not have attractive facial features (NOT because she is black, just in general) or that she has low self esteem.

Even if they did have "unnatractive facial features" (which I don't really believe in) there is always someone out there who will find those features beautiful, they just haven't found the right person yet.

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Originally Posted by shazamataz

I don't know if that was directed at DyanaGiselle or not but if it is I think you misunderstood her post... She is not saying that she attracts more men than people with 'black' features at all, I understood it as she was saying it was either that person A does not have attractive facial features (NOT because she is black, just in general) or that she has low self esteem.

Even if they did have "unnatractive facial features" (which i don't really believe in) there is always someone out there who will find those features beautiful, they just haven't found the right person yet.

Thanks for understanding what I was saying, you're completely right! There aren't any unattractive facial features or features period.

No problem, I was hoping I was interpreting it right.

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Originally Posted by DyanaGiselle

LoL

Someones mad, apparently!

I know I joined a skin lightening forum - so you've wasted time posting all of that info. I never tried to delete or edit those post. I used bio claire, and was thinking of using mono. I was completely uneducated about bio claire and mono at that time (I'll get back to that later) but #1 - I'm doing skin lightening for a COMPLETELY different reason that yours (I'll get back to that later as well), and #2 - you're completely misunderstanding my posts/ point. My point is that you were (or still are) not unattractive to men because of your skin color, theirs plenty of men that like brown skinned women so that's not an excuse. As I stated in my post, I have several light skinned friends that don't get as much attention as me. You are either not a pretty woman (facial features wise), or you had a low self esteem that made men not even want to notice you. And its completely ignorant of you to say that lighter equals prettier, as if facial features don't count. Now back to the bio claire & mono topic. I wanted something that would actually work, and after reading reviews about bio claire on this forum I gave it a try. It lightened me to a dark caramel color (about Mary J Blige's complexion) but I stopped using it because I later found out that its harmful/ has steroids in it. I been stopped using it. If I was so "desperate", id still be using it now. I attempted to use monobenzone but was (thankfully) nearly scammed out of my money. I was completely uneducated about it, and thought it was just a strong lightening cream that would lighten me a few shades in a short period of time. I had no idea that my skin could've possibly depigged. So you have no idea what you're talking about. My reason for wanting to lighten in the first place is because I have strong indian/hispanic facial features (which I inherited from my Hispanic mother), so I want to just fully look it. You are fully black, and you want to look hispanic like me- that's so sad (you have a curly weave... MY hair is 100% natural curly hair growing from my head). You say I've failed to lighten... but sadly, you've failed to attract men, (like I have throughout my teenage years). So sad!

You're still trying to lighten your skin. So please stop acting like you're better than the rest of us. Arguing with people on the internet is so pointless. I'm over it. I wish you the best.

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Originally Posted by DarkSkinGirl

I feel like people are putting down women who have black features. I have features very similar to Gabrielle Union, so I guess I must be less pretty than someone who has Indian features? Huh? I mean I'm noticing a lot of snobby remarks coming from people who don't have traditionally black features, bragging about how they attract more black men and men of other races.

Black features are just as beautiful as features from other races. Each race adds to what's considered beautiful in this world. I even defended rihanna in a recent post. There was some girl bashing her for having african facial features. Sadly, theirs something in this world called preference LoL, theirs men that would prefer your facial features over mine. I wish everybody could just like everyone's looks. But sadly it isn't that way

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Originally Posted by BrownDeceit

You're still trying to lighten your skin. So please stop acting like you're better than the rest of us. Arguing with people on the internet is so pointless. I'm over it. I wish you the best.

Exactly, I'm not better than you & you're not better than me because you were able to lighten your skin faster. I know this argument was pointless, I'm 19 years old and too old for this LoL, I'm sure you're too old for this as well. I'm over it too, I was just trying to get my point across and was trying to make you realize several things, but thank you and I wish you the best as well.

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Originally Posted by shazamataz

I don't know if that was directed at DyanaGiselle or not but if it is I think you misunderstood her post... She is not saying that she attracts more men than people with 'black' features at all, I understood it as she was saying it was either that person A does not have attractive facial features (NOT because she is black, just in general) or that she has low self esteem.

Even if they did have "unnatractive facial features" (which i don't really believe in) there is always someone out there who will find those features beautiful, they just haven't found the right person yet.

I'll be 40 next year & I've realized that there's an audience for everyone(all sorts of physical traits & characteristics).

'A lid for every pot' as my grandmother might say. :D

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Originally Posted by EggoMini

I'll be 40 next year & I've realized that there's an audience for everyone(all sorts of physical traits & characteristics).

'A lid for every pot' as my grandmother might say. :D

Yea but some people appeal to more of a wider audience which I am trying to do. Being dark brown, with black facial features I feel like I am limited, very limited in who I appeal to. It's depressing.

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Originally Posted by DyanaGiselle

I'm honestly not trying to be funny or make BrownDeceit feel bad, its just pure honesty. Skin color has nothing to do with beauty... its facial features. For example, Keri Hilson is darker than Keyshia Cole. But guess who's considered prettier? Keri Hilson of course.

How can you say it is pure honesty when you have never seen Browndeceit's face before? She is known to be an attractive person and has won beauty pageants over other girls so one can not judge unless you have seen her for yourself. Keysha Cole is not a very attractive girl, she is not unnattractive. But she is not very pretty either.

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Originally Posted by shazamataz

Thankyou for the explanation Golden Girl, there are a few people on here who are willing to explain things to me rather than jump down my throat and immediately call me judgemental.

I now know it's a very touchy subject, I did not know that before... As I have said it's not like that where I live so I just want to understand.
Everyone is beautiful in their own way, I have been picked on for my looks before so I know what it feels like... as I have grown as a person I have learnt to take others nasty comments with a grain of salt, if I think I'm beautiful and the people that matter think I'm beautiful then that's all that matters... screw everyone else.

I really like this passage... that's pretty much what I was trying to say, I'm glad that you do not have time for guys that only see your color and not who you are on the inside.
The only time I post is when I think that there is something more "sinister" going on... I get the feeling that the person is lightening for others approval not just for themselves.

Thanks Shaz for your genuine concern. Your pretty cool and I want you to always feel welcomed here.

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Originally Posted by BrownDeceit

DyanaGiselle. If you're so gorgeous already and skin lightening doesn't make a difference. How come when I go back to your previous posts it shows that you're trying to figure out why your hands smell funny when you apply bio claire to them. and you want to know why the bio clair threads are closed? are you that desperate to use such a dangerous product? and the nerve of you to come on here and shun me. Lol. Oh the hypocrisy. And I'm not going to sit up here and say I look like this or I look like that. I know what I look like. I know that I like my features. But all is irrelevant without the proof of pictures. That goes for you as well. Oh and. How's that bioclaire coming along for ya buddy?

It is a bit confusing DyanaGiselle when pointing out another's flaws for lightening their skin but you are also trying to lighten your skin in quite drastic measures with mono and bio claire. Bio claire is toxic and I learned now to avoid it. But mono takes lightening to another level which eventually equals depigmenting. Correct me if I'm wrong, but it's like throwing stones at a person for doing the same actions as you are doing :confused:

Golden Girl,

DyanaGiselle and BrownDeceit have already made up so let's just drop it shall we?

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Originally Posted by Golden_Girl

It is a bit confusing DyanaGiselle when pointing out another's flaws for lightening their skin but you are also trying to lighten your skin in quite drastic measures with mono and bio claire. bio claire is toxic and I learned now to avoid it. But mono takes lightening to another level which eventually equals depigmenting. Correct me if I'm wrong, but it's like throwing stones at a person for doing the same actions as you are doing :confused:

Apparently you don't understand what I was trying to say either. I am not saying she's wrong for lightening - point out where I said that. I simply said she's wrong for thinking lighter equals prettier. Im sure we've all seen lighter women that we look better than. And if you read my post above, I clearly stated that I was completely uneducated about bio claire and monobenzone. I thought mono was just a stronger lightening cream that would lighten my skin. Not take all of my color away. Plus I was trying to get deceit to realize that if she was ignored by men in the past then it mustve been because she had low self esteem, or these guys simply didn't find her face attractive. Chances are, now they just like her confidence. Plus if she was a beauty pageant winner, why would men not find her attractive? Something's not making sense here. I've been asked to compete in miss teen ny, and I've constantly received cards from modeling agents ever since I was 13. And I've never had issues attracting boys and men. Im not saying she's unattractive, but I know a few people reading this understand what I'm saying.