[MANDY76]

My boyfriend of 9 months broke up with me 3 weeks ago. Everything had been going well until his ex (who he is in a custody battle with) started asking questions about me. We tried adjusting our schedule but my feelings were seriously hurt that I couldn't be with him and his daughters the way I was used to being, this lead to the break up. He basically told me he could not worry about my happiness right now that his daughters come first (which they should he is such a great dad) and that with everything on his plate we should just be friends for now. The problem is we aren't just friends, two days after the break up he called me to come down because he missed me and we had sex. We call each other on the same schedule as usual and we know each others schedules inside and out. If I am MIA then he is asking my friends where I am. He isn't spending time with me other than the calls in the middle of the night for sex (which I know I shouldn't answer, I miss him and love him, I want to see him and that is the only time I get to and the sex is AMAZING! ) We are open and honest about everything including getting hit on by other people, he was asked out and called me as soon as it happened. He told me what he told the girl, told me not to worry he didn't want to be with someone else and then asked if he did a good job. He is constantly seeking my approval even though we are not together. I have asked if I am just a booty call cause lets face it that's what it sounds like, and when I tell him what I want he says he knows that I just need to give him a little more time. I asked him what do I tell people when they ask what we are, he says to tell them that our relationship is on hold and that we are still extremely close. Is he just doing all this to protect a piece of or does he care and is he willing to work through this?

[dianbousa]

Here's my opinion. Relationships are give and take. You need to really think about it. Do You love him? Does he love you? If he does why do you have to wait. You both can still be dating if he really wanted to. If he can't because of his ex and the custody battle, you both could at least say you are not together in the public eye, but in actuality be with each other if you both really wanted to. Just don't let anyone find out.

[Washington1]

The truth! Let it go, until he gets his life together. You have your life to live, and if he loves you, he will respect that. Move on (without the occasional sex)!