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[F]This is the story, I only started to hung about with all this company a few weeks ago, before we used to be just friends through college now we are going out all together and have fun, they all really nice people and David is my best friend out of all of them, we are get on so well and he is always there for me. One day he told me something about him and Linda, she is his friend and she is girlfriend of one his best friends. I have seen her a few times and she is really nice, very pretty girl and very smart. The first time I saw her she seemed really confident in herself and she has every guy around her, but she seemed very in love with her boyfriend Tom............after David confess to me that they have been having unfair with her about a 4 month...........I could not believe it...........

She and David were doing one project in college together and she was his assistant while Tom was away on his work experience in London............they started as friends and then it grew in more then just a friendship. I know David very well now and he shares a lot his secrets and fairs now and I could see that she could have provoke the whole thing. You see David is very smart and has absolutely lovely personality, but if you look at her and him you know that they too different and they she is with all guys around her, I would say that David isn't her type at all.........

I never go into someone relationships because its not my business, but since he knows me, he tells me everything about it and he ask me what I think. Its a big secret and I know that I would never tell anyone about it, if the situation wasn't that confused. The names I use and places are not real, but the story is. she told me once that he is madly in love with her and she doesn't know what to do............also she said that she loves him only as a friend, but I think she could have told me that because she didn't want me to try on with him or make me not interested in him......that could be the reason. No one knows and no one will until one of them decided to confess...........

It could be the story of love if she did really love him that much, but most of the time, she only come and uses him when she needs it and she always play around with his head.....she says she loves Tom so much, but she doesn't want to loose him as well...........can someone love two ppl at once? Is it possible? I dont know because I have never been to that situation. I dont say anything against her, because I dont know her that much and I believe she is a nice girl........but I feel very sad for David because he gets hurt a lot............now we like best friends and when I need him he is always there for me and now I want to help him and find a solution.........but I lost for solutions..........

I have told him that the only choice to break all this now until it gets more serious..........but how can I ask guy who loves her so much to do that, I have been there and I know how hard is it. Here there is the story gets more twisted............lately I have been hang about with him a lot and he is a really good friend to me, me and him know that our love will never grow in more then friendship and that is why we enjoy our times together.........lately she start getting really jealous about it and she even thought we had something, but realized that there is nothing there, which is good, but she still jellies because he isn't devoting his all time and thought to her......knowing that they even not a couple, well because she loves Tom and she wants to be with him........but at the same time she want to carry on with David as well..........

She is a bit flirt and she flirt absolutely with anyone, she told me ones that she doesn't like girl friends and she has basically none, because its a competition......maybe that is why I never can get closer enough to know what she thinks about me...........in our company now there are more guys and there is only her and me know who is girls........although all guys have their girlfriends most of them not there and that is why she knows she can get flirty when she needs with any of them. Im a girl and I can see that happening all the time, though she could be just very friendly with them and there is no harm in flirting well............until then she call last night to David and because lately he spends more time with me............we live on one street and like to kill some time together.........he is a great support to me since I still in love with my ex, he helps me to take my mind of it and just being a great friend to me...........well anyways she said that there is one guy who they both know and David he likes her a lot, she told him last night that she spends with him a lot of time now and she thinks she really likes him and she doesn't know what to do.............................................?

Poor David he was white then he told me that............Last night Tom was with us and she specially call on David's phone and just txted to Tom.........He was mad angry and you can see he was about to have an argument with her.........I feel so sorry for the guy, because the way she treats him its so unfair...........I think by now all my respect for her is dying because she just messing with all of them and its very wrong. I could see already that at the end of all of this everyone is going to get hurt, but most of it it will be Tom and David. And I dont think they are going to stay friends after all..........I just know its not going to happen............

Im very worried about my fiends David because he deeply loves her and sometimes he still thinks she loves him, which I hope maybe truth, but why would she play with him like that? Tom and her going on holidays to Cuba in a few 2 weeks time, I spoke with him last night and the guy seems so happy, its great to see him like that..........he is only 19 after all and she 23...............and for him maybe she is a first love, he will do everything for her............but he is going to get so hurt at the end of it.............

David wants to tell him, but he doesn't know where to start and what to say...........because its really hard and I know he was wrong in what he did, by cheating on his mate with his girl, but I think he was also victim of all of these............because she have them all twisted around her finger.........

I really dont know how to help him and what to say, I think the only way out of all this is to come clean and tell Tom about it and David is one who needs to do it. Last night David had tears in his eyes and he is really confused about all these............I feel really bad because I dont know how can I help my friend and I want him and everyone to be happy, I think Linda doesn't know herself how difficult the situation is, but I hope she will realize soon enough that this is wrong.................

I need your advice, because I really need some ideas of how I can help him, because I have run out of all..............its way to complicated and I have never been in such situation before...................

Please help me.........................:confused:

[pergammano]

If I were in your shoes (which I am not) I would have a coffee with the girl and tell her what you know & if she doesn't correct the situation, you will have to take it one step further to protect your friend. Hopefully she has a conscious & will do the right thing. You will have to be the shoulder that your friend can lean on, but this is a go "nowhere" situation where all people involved are going to be hurt. Tell her it is imperative that she clean up this mess as discreetly as possible. Be careful what you do & say, somehow the tables will turn, & you will end up being the bad guy for being the bearer of bad news. Good luck!