[Beautifulx]

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I found this web because of that I goggled " he doesn't want me anymore".

My husband and me met 3 and half years ago, he was my first sex partner, I didn't know anything about sex when I met him, although I was 20. He was 27. We used to have sex twice a week when we started dating, I was very happy, and then it goes down to once a week, and once a month... This year we hardly have any, we had less than 10 times the whole year so far. I can't deal with it anymore. He calls me a sex addict!! That is mentally abusing!!

I'm still young and very pretty, am 5ft 3in, size 8.. I think I'm fit. A lot of men's tried chatting up with me no matter where I go. I had thoughts, but don't want to just pick up strangers to f**k. The only man I want is him my hubby, why not he interested??

I couldn't get the answer from him, I'm sure that he's not cheating. But He won't let me to touch his private area at all what so ever, why?I know that he smokes, drinks. But not as bad.

All I want to do now is to devoice, I'm becoming depressed and feeling bad of myself all the time, I'm not the happy girl I used to be, living like this makes me feel like weak, sick and old. I can't stop crying every so often. Is there anybody can help me please? We r both poor, I'm happy with him in other areas, so I don't want to make a big mistake.

May thanks for reading this!

[Beautifulx]

Be wise and Good luck with everything.

[Xrayman]

Have you really sat down and talked to him? Without either of you accusing each other of things (you sex addict, him smoker/drinker)?

I think you really need to look after yourself but like you said it is not in your best interests to sleep with others or divorce him-tell him this, it may help.

Personally, I have mentiond this on more than one occasion, you need to spend some time with yourself sexually, forget him for a while-you need comfort and you have sexual needs that I fear may get out of hand if you are not satifying yourself-this can help you and him!

You need some self-respect and he needs to provide you with some respect for your needs and feelings as well.

Cheers.

[rankrank55]

It is really odd to me that you have only have sex about 10 times this year and he is calling you a sex addict.. This is very strange because that is not a lot of sex at all... You also mentioned that once you had sex for the first time the amount you did it started to decreasing within a pretty short amount of time; most people go at it like rabbits when they first begin to do it because it's fresh, new, and exciting to experiment with new things. It sounds like he simply does not like sex(not that there is anything wrong with you) but maybe he is, oddly, just not interested in it. Have you tried to spice things up? Usually it is a good idea to begin foreplay in the beginning of the day to build up anticipation... get a cosmopolitan(those always helped me think of new bedroom ideas haha) If I were you, I would not call it quits just yet. Try a few things first, work on your relationship and spice things up. Make him feel sexy! If things don't work after a while try explaining to him what your concerns are and see a sex therapist. Good luck and ask more questions if you need to! :)

[MummaCrash]

Sex ten times this years? Nymphomaniac? I think not!

I'm so sorry Beautifulx. I hope you can talk this through with him and find out what's up..

Good luck

[letmetellu]

So many times it is the man writing to the help places for advice when his wife would give him any, so you might look back through some of the post that men wrote to see what their answers were.

[fix-what-you-broke]

For better or for worse, that's the way I see marriage,you are going through a time without sex and you want to divorce him? How about instead of doing something so drastic you try communication?
Explain to him what you have explained here and tell him you want answers, if he won't talk tell him its serious, if he still won't talk tell him you want a divorce, I'm betting he will talk then.