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Josh777 · May 31, 2007, 04:22 AM

I can easily talk to people, I really can I make tons of new friends and close aquatainces (sp?) I also help everyone I meet even strangers. I almost never raise my tone to anyone. Most people say I have a perfect life. But when it comes to helping myself I can't do it. I'm afraid of confronting personal issues with some people. I think I may be afraid of the answer they could give me or what they might say... This only happens with 3 people though everybody else I have no problem! So why do I do it? What can I do to change it?

Capuchin · May 31, 2007, 04:25 AM

Okay. Do you have a question?

Josh777 · May 31, 2007, 04:26 AM

Why do I do it? How can I change it?

Capuchin · May 31, 2007, 04:27 AM

Maybe with others you don't really care what they think of you, but these few people are very special to you and you care very much about their approval? Would you say that is true?

NeedKarma · May 31, 2007, 04:28 AM

You sound like a nice person so far. Is it more a matter of not being able to say "no" to some people?

Josh777 · May 31, 2007, 04:38 AM

To capuchin yes well I care about one of the three people the other 2 are just their best friend and brother

And I can say no but its hard I mostly always say yes.

Allheart · May 31, 2007, 04:45 AM

Josh,

You do indeed sound like a good person. The most important thing you should know is to be comfortable in your own skin. So, when you always say yes... do you sometimes want to say no? Probably huh. I was like that too but what I began to realize, when I nicely would say "no", I will not be able to attend, or whatever I felt I should be saying no to, right upfront, I felt so much better and the stress that I put on myself went for immense to zilch.

Try saying no, when you really want to say no, just once. If this person that you care so much about is deserving of your care, they will understand.

There is nothing wrong at all with being a good guy. Actually that's a great thing. What
Is best for you to know, is be sure and surround yourself with other good people.

As you get a little older and get more years under your belt, you will find that internally, you get a little stronger and the circle of people that you concern yourself as to what they think becomes smaller, but more precious.

You really are okay. We need more good people in the world :)

Josh777 · May 31, 2007, 04:49 AM

Thanks Allheart I'll try!
Really thanks NeedKarma and Capuchin!
If the rest of you wish to talk in this thread you can.

NeedKarma · May 31, 2007, 04:59 AM

As Allheart said it gets easier as you get older. You need to realize that people won't hate you because you said no to something you don't want to do or don't agree with.