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    GEWALKER Posts: 7, Reputation: 1
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    May 27, 2007, 03:04 AM
    Coping with a husband who is no longer working
    Hello

    3 years ago my husband stopped working and aside from voluntary work, he has not worked since. As time goes by, I am finding it hard to cope with a husband who is not working as well as a full-time job. Aside from leaving him, and I do not really want to do this, what else can I do?
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    May 27, 2007, 03:24 AM
    Do you have children? Does he stay home with the children. You work full time but he does not. Why does he not work, what is his reason for stopping work?

    Volunteer work, what kind does he do and how often? Work is work.
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    May 27, 2007, 03:49 AM
    Yes I have one son, however he is working full-time and no longer at home.

    We have no mortgages as our home has been fully paid off. My husband stopped working at 52 and he is now 55. He took a redundancy package when he left work having been with his employer for 28 years. Anyway, after he left work, he had a serious operation and he now has a 'stoma bag' and it took a bit of time for both of us to get use to his bag.

    He does voluntary work at the 'stoma' clinic and he is the treasurer of the Historic Electric Train Society (he likes trains). He is very helpful around the house and contributes a lot to the housework. I guess I am not use to him not working and to some extent I still long for the routine we had before he stopped working. Or may be I just expect too much.

    You have children? Does he stay home with the children. You work full time but he does not. Why does he not work, what is his reason for stopping work?

    Volunteer work, what kind does he do and how often? Work is work.
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    May 27, 2007, 06:11 AM
    It seems he is enjoying his retirement, and so he should, Do you work? And how is the relationship, other than the not working, and why does it change the routine? I retired not to long ago, and I love it but it is an adjustment, I will admit.
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    May 27, 2007, 07:36 AM
    I have to admit. He is not doing anything wrong and you should let him enjoy his retirement. Your being selfish maybe because you continue to work, and your jealous of him enjoying his retirement.

    Mortgages are paid off which is an amazing feat now a days with the costs of houses. You guys are all set and you think he should go back out and work.

    You need to realize he is in retirement and obviously enjoying his time volunteering. This issue is with you and not your husband.

    Your husband is not doing anything wrong.

    Joe
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