[chipster8]

I like this guy and its fairly obvious he likes me, but nothing has ever happened, and because of certain circumstances things may not proceed for a while... but a few quick questions, maybe the lads can help out here:

1. he said a while back that things were going to have to change?

2. he also said he was always the one getting in contact with me

Since saing this:

3. he has stopped the contact, yet when we see each other in person he is extra friendly and has a lot more physical contact (hugs, hand touches etc)

4. he has started to comment and compliment a lot more

It has left me totally confused:

Is he trying to push me away slowly but friendly style?
Does he sound bored?
Why would he still want physical contact and stare me out and compliment me all the time in face to face situations?

Please help I'm mega confused and its buggin me, above all I miss him so much its horrendous!

[kinks]

Girl here hun, but most of my mates are guys. Most guys are simple hun unlike us and their feelings are put out their plain and straight but boys too get shy.

Firstly - why don't you call the boy, you are supposed to be friends I would be pissed if I was always ringing my friend and they were never the one ringing me - it would give me the impression that they didn't like me much, and that's only as a friend - never mind the dating aspect.

Perhaps the physical contact is because he feels more comfortable around you now, and that may not be because he likes you , pehaps from the way you were before he was trying to show you he liked you but you never seemed to show any interest - perhaps now he has givven up and just wants to be friends and so hence has less nerves about holding hands toutching etc, because friends do those things as well as boyfriend and girlfriends.

You need to ring him up go out somewhere friendly and if there is a good friendly vibe go right out and say - I fancy you! The reaction and the conversation after will tell you everything girl.

Boys get shy too - why should they always be the ones to ask the girl out, especially if it seemed you weren't getting any of his hints.

You need to figure out if he likes you - if he does them wooo-hoo and if he doesn't then never mind - you still got a good friend, whom you still need to ring by the way!

[chipster8]

Hey kinks,

Thanks for your help, thought id fill you in on the latest!

I have been made a complete fool of... discovered this guy, has been dating a very good mate of mine behind my back (as is sleeping with her and everythin!) it has been going on for ages, so despite the fact he stopped texting me it went on for ages before that, he had us both on the go, cept wasn't getting anywher with me, so has totally ditched me now he is getting what he wants from someone else!

I was absolutely horrified and shocked when I discovered!

But I just want pass on a very important to message to everyone who reads this...

BEWARE! PLEASE GIRLS - if your not sure about a lad, do not do anything you would regret, although I am obviously gutted over this and it will take me a while to stop liking him, I am so happy and felt so relieved that I never let anything happen between us, otherwise this whole situation would have been so bad! So please please please girls do not rush into anything, the lads that come across sickly sweet might not always been mr nice guy deep down as I have realised, as this guy is now stirring and bad mouthing me behind my back.

Please take note!

[kinks]

Well at least now you know hey. Good luck with finding the right guy in the future though

[wiggitywackiraq]

Wow, well there goes the whole mystery that is us guys. We are like that though, I got to be honest. We are hunters, you know spread the seed and all that stuff. I'm not trying to be schovenistic here, just recognizing mens character. I am one and I've done that, minus the whole badmouthing part, cause to be honest that's kind of a womanly thing to do.

A WARNING TO THE GUYS OUT THERE- woman are shy. Women play games too, therefore women are not innocent when it come to relationships. Every woman plays games. I can say that because any woman who doesn't agree is lying. Every dude plays games too, and I'm not afraid to say it because I'm brutally honest. Just watch out gyus, and watch out girls because we as a species are very tricky when it comes to love and sex.