[Karly]

My boyfriend came over last Sunday. We were playing around in my room for a little while, and by this I mean, wrestling. Before I knew it, he tackled me to the ground. We laughed as he held me down and I tried to "fight" him. As I laid there smiling, he kissed me. Right on that moment, my mother walked by, and what she saw appeared as something completely different and completely WRONG. She took it as though I was about to have sex. She walked back down the stairs and wouldn't talk to me for the rest of the day. The next day, I tried speaking with her again and she told me that I am not allowed to see him for a few months or maybe even a year. Her decision has made me miserable and my boyfriend as well. I have tried reasoning with her, and wrote her a letter of all the lessons she has taught me in life and that she should trust that I would never think twice of wanting to risk ruining my future. She told me it was a sweet letter, and that I still can't see him. I don't know what to do or say anymore, because she refuses to believe anything I have to say.

[shygrneyzs]

Your Mother was shaken by what she saw - I would be too if you were my daughter. If you were my daughter, your boyfriend would never be allowed near your bedroom. So, take it from there. Playing around wrestling is not so innocent, honestly. Not when you are in your teens. Maybe I am too cautious, but your Mother has her right to be concerned about this. Now do I think the boyfriend ban of a few months is appropriate? I was not there so I am not going to second guess that. Maybe she saw more than what you are saying here. But to be on your side, the propsed ban of a year is a bit strong.

Give your Mother some time to think about things, cool off, and then talk to her again. Don't be critical of her, don't yell or make fun of what she says. Hopefully she will treat you with the same respect. She is looking out for your welfare. You do not know how many unplanned pregnancies have resulted from the playing you described. That is what worries your Mother.

[Skell]

How old are you? Im guessing fairly young but can you please clarify! It has a fair bearing on the answer in my opinion.

[letmetellu]

I am sure that your mother was devastated at what she saw, if you passed you parents bedroom and saw them in the same position that you and your boyfriend were in what would you have thought. I think I know, an you would have been disappointed in your parents.

Maybe after a time passes and you prove yourself worthy of her trust she will relax her penalty on you.

Now give me a truthful answer to this question. Weren't you and your boyfriend wrestling around because of the closeness you had with each other and it turned you on a little.

[talaniman]

First of all teens should never entertain their b/f's or g/f's in their bedroom, I do mean never, That's what living rooms or public areas of the house are for. Having said that, your boyfriend should give his humble apology (should have when caught) at desrespecting her house, and promising never ever, to do anything like that again. It may not make her change her mind, but would be the thing to do. Be a perfect daughter for a while, and I do mean PERFECT, as she might relent. HER HOUSE, HER RULES, harsh or not.