[sjain]

I got married 5 months back. We haven't still done it. Emotionally things have got better but not even close to what it should be like. He doesn't like sex but says will do it for me and his parents as society asks for it. Earlier he wasn't sure of me but now is better. He has crossdressed at night with me 3 times and is member of crossdressing Clubs. Seems to be a nice person at heart but very selfish who doesn't care or understand any one Else emotions. Tell me should I leave him or continue

[ninahhhdreams]

i just happened to get lost and came over to this posting and read it...

you are asking people on this forum if you should leave or continue with a man you married, who isn't sure about YOU? whoa.

first, how well do you know this man? rather, how well did you know him before you were married? how frequent was sex before you married? did he like it before? are there activities you do together? do you enjoy each other's company? how do YOU feel about him? is he able to communicate his feelings with and about you? does he seem to care or not care?

i think these are questions you can answer being that this is your situation. if you feel that there are things you can work out, then most certainly try. but above all, when dealing with a man like that or any man, he has to be willing to talk and not be pressured. he's gotta know you won't ridicule or harrass, but that you are his friend, someone he can talk to about anything( he sees you accept his crossdressing). be light and breezy easy going but not a doormat. and when you put your foot down and say enough, then dammit, that's what you've gotta mean.

good luck:)