[boy crazy]

I have a great guy friend. He is the type of guy that is there for you like a regular girl friend would be. He is sweet and funny and he always makes me happy. I have feelings for him but then again I think that friends is all we should be. I can't tell if we should be together. What do I do? I know I need to make up my mind but I can't. It's hard to decide. I don't want to get with him but then feel weird about being together and then break his heart by dumping him. I need some advice. Please help me by guiding me in a good direction. Thank you for reading my question.

[cely05819]

Hmmm. I have to say that in my younger years I was in this position about a billion times. It's a hard one to answer. I remember that I had a friend that was very much like your friend. We did everything together. We were totally joined at the hip. He wanted more from our relationship and made it known. I made it known that I wasn't going to take that step with him. He didn't mope about it or anything. He just continued to be my best friend. It was great. Then he moved away. I cried myself to sleep for days. It was pure and utter torture. I was sure that I was madly in love with him and only realized it after he left. He came back for a visit about a year later. I was so over him I couldn't even remember why I was so upset when he left. (I know that sounds kind of cold but I had just moved on with my life).

If you really wanted to be with him I think you would know it and there wouldn't be any question.

Having friendhsips with men can be hard because you can confuse that closeness, sometimes love will grow from that closeness, it's all so confusing and I can tell I'm not being much help now. LOL

[MrsJoseph06]

It's hard when your in that position! I too have been there! I dated almost all of my guy friends. It just depends on your relationship and the person! This one guy I was really good friends with thought I like him and after a week realized we were just better off friends so I broke up with him! He was weird to begin with but after he got over it we were the best of friends. We still are today. On the other hand I dated this guy who was a friend he was the sweetiest guy we talked everyday for 6 months dated for 3 month and in the end I just dident like him like that. He stopped talking to me completely! I really missed his friendship and had a hard time with the whole thing because I felt like hurt him! So you just have to remember that things don't always work out how you want and you have to be sure of your decision before you jump into something! Good luck!

[paganheart71]

If you're not sure, just stay friends. It's hard to find a great friend like that, but if you do decide you want more. Think about if you do break up and could live with out that friend.

[boy crazy]

Thank you all for reading and answering my question. I haven't made a decision so far but I plan to soon. You all have great advice and thanks for sharing your stories. It seems like I need to decide which would be best for us. It's just so hard because when I'm with him I don't want to be but when I'm without him, I want him around me. Weird, I know! Well, I'll keep you guys updated but I have to go now. Thank you again and goodbye.

[fix-what-you-broke]

If I were you I would sit down, relax, try to clear your head, and think about things... if you take the chance and go out with him it could be the best thing you ever did, on the other side of the coin it could be the worst.
If you guys don't work out you will lose a friend, you have to decide if it is worth the risk to you. Good luck

[talaniman]

Just be friends as we all have thoe strong feelings for the opposite sex, but friends are forever and if you take your time you'll know if there is more to it as you grow together. Right now since you don't know how you feel, stay friends