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    May 10, 2007, 05:23 AM
    I cheated.
    I'm 26, been married for 2 years and have a stepdaughter with joint custody. I've been working with a friend of mine for over 3 years , I was engaged with I met this friend. About a year ago we started workign together everyday and I started to develop feelings for him. Never acted on it and moved to a different location but same company. Well I went back last week to visit and him and I talked. It came out that he has had feelings for me for years and I came out and told him l left the location because I had feelings for him too. Well yesterday he came to visit at my location and we went for a walk at lunch to talk. We kissed! And ever since that kiss I can't stop thinking about him. He is so funny and always know how to make me smile. Now I love my husband but its always so stressful with him and I just feel so alive and stress free when I'm with this other man. What do I do! We did talk and kind of put closure to everything and he agreed that I owe it to my husband to work on our marriage, but he's like "oh my god you have no idea how much i just want to steal you away, but i know i can't" iw anted to cry. So that is all that is ever happened, kissed and puta closure to it. Did I cheat? I feel awful and guilty but I can't help but think about him , help!
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    May 10, 2007, 05:27 AM
    Yes you did cheat, would u consider that cheating of your husband snogged another lady?

    I think its time for marriage counselling, that is if you want to reagin your marriage to the you love.

    Im your age, been married for 2 yrs also.
    Life is stressful at most times, its normal. Marriage is a full-time commitment and to make things work you have to work hard to achieve what you both want to achieve.
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    May 10, 2007, 09:42 AM
    Trust me, life would be stressful with this guy too in two years when you are having daily talks about paying the bills, and should we invite the in-laws for Christmas, and where is my hemmroid cream. The grass probably only LOOKS greener. Be careful. You have already gone too far. Do what you would want your husband to do. Completely CUT OFF this other guy. Never speak to him again. Work on your marriage. Do fun things together. Yes you did cheat. But move forward now, take your thoughts captive. Don't entertain thoughts of him, concentrate on loving your husband the way he deserves to be loved. Blessings.
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    May 10, 2007, 04:20 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Sundance
    I'm 26, been married for 2 years and have a stepdaughter with joint custody. I've been working with a friend of mine for over 3 years , i was engaged with I met this friend. About a year ago we started workign together everyday and i started to develop feelings for him. never acted on it and moved to a different location but same company. well i went back last week to visit and him and i talked. it came out that he has had feelings for me for years and i came out and told him l left the location because i had feelings for him too. well yesterday he came to visit at my location adn we went for a walk at lunch to talk. We kissed! and ever since that kiss i can't stop thinking about him. He is so funny and always know how to make me smile. now i love my husband but its always so stressful with him and i jsut feel so alive and stress free when i'm with this other man. What do i do! we did talk and kind of put closure to everything and he agreed that i owe it to my husband to work on our marriage, but he's like "oh my god you have no idea how much i just want to steal you away, but i know i can't" iw anted to cry. so that is all taht is ever happened, kissed and puta closure to it. did i cheat? i feel awful and guilty but i can't help but think about him , help!


    Stop before things get out of hand...
    Your husband may be stressed because he is providing for his family...

    Stop dreaming.
    Back to reality and work on your marriage.

    Yes, you can help thinking about this other guy.
    It's a choice.
    Falling in love or falling for somebody is one thing... what you do with it is a second.

    It's all about choices in life.

    Good luck.

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