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ellen-07 · May 9, 2007, 09:00 AM

Well I've been with my boyfriend a year and 4 months and I love him but I'm concerned about his relationship with his family. Him and his family are close but my boyfriend who is 17 seems 2 close 2 his sister who is 19 and his niece who is 3. His sister has her own house bt comes up everyday to his familys house and him and his sister play fight like get on top of each other and stuff, me and a few friends say that its weird because there 17 and 19 and the way they play fight is like a 'flirty way'. He often babysits for his sister and once when I came around his niece who is a little girl was watching tele naked and I came and sat next to my boyfriend and he kissed me and he put my hand on his '''' and it was on hard I find that weird he said it was because he was kissing me but at the bk of mind it made me wonder because it don't normally pop up like that. It makes me sick and worried if he is some kind of interbred. Sometimes when his niece stays over she stays in his bed even though she has got a bedroom which I think is inappropriate as she is a 3 year old girl and he is a 17 year old lad. I love him and thought it was just me but my mates comment on it 2. am I thinking too much into it? Is it normal? What should I do? What do you reckon?

ballengerb1 · May 9, 2007, 10:17 AM

Nope, not normal and you are right to question his conduct. Observe him thoroughly as he interacts with everyone. You will have to make your own decision but this BF sounds a bit creapy with the play fighting and reaction to the niece. I'd be looking for a Bf with a healthier angle on relationships. Best of luck with this guy, your mates may be right.

MissAdvice · May 9, 2007, 08:39 PM

Is it truly his blood sister, what about a step sister.. >?

Parajr · May 9, 2007, 08:54 PM

I would be concerned. Him having an erection by looking at a child is sick. You don't have proof, because he could have been anticipating you kissing him or something like that. I'm just giving him the benefit of the doube, but I would keep a close eye on the situation. I would go as far as to asking him about his relationship with his sister, and his opinion on child molesters. Keep the best interest of the child in mind, place your love for dude second.

sypher373 · May 9, 2007, 09:05 PM

As far as the situation with his sister is concerned, I'm not sure I agree with the previous posters. I know many people who are very close with their siblings, and I would think nothing of what you described. It would be no surprise to me at all if its totally innocent. Sometimes friends aren't right.

chuff · May 9, 2007, 09:59 PM

Wow something sounds strange but I'm a little confused as well. Where was the girl when he was watching TV naked? In the same room? If so something is certainly wrong. But I guess to be fair to him I guess we should ask if she was sleeping and he was watching porn or something before you got there. Still inapporpriate mind you, but not as bad as were jumping to conclusions on.

I don't think you can assume anything is wrong just yet, but I don't think you should ignore it either.

chuff · May 9, 2007, 10:03 PM

Originally Posted by sypher373

As far as the situation with his sister is concerned, im not sure I agree with the previous posters. I know many people who are very close with their siblings, and I would think nothing of what you described. It would be no surprise to me at all if its totally innocent. Sometimes friends aren't right.

I had to spread it but I agree.

And you know the more I think about it I have a nephew that I used to fall asleep with watching TV while holding or sitting on my lap at that age, granted it was on the couch and not in a bed, and he was a boy not a girl but if I had a niece I would do the same thing and I don't think that's abnormal. The naked thing, while I still don't know about that one.