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HaLlOwEeN_672 · May 8, 2007, 01:20 PM

OK I have gone through and made a lot of changes in my life thus far because of my mistake... I cheated on a man who loved me.. its a long story for anyone willing to listen... I was a girl who hung out in a group full of boys (around 15 )
One was my cousin the leader of the group the best friend of everyone and I dated the second favorite

Well he fell in love with me and we dated for a long time

I ran away and we stayed together he waited for me to get back but when I got back I broke up with him... his friend happened to be my best friend one of the boys I hung out with a lot more than the others . He told me he loved me and I was stuck not sure what to say but I didn't cheat on him I broke up with him to be with my best friend

But I still loved justin so I lied to him about it... I told him I wasn't with anyone and I told him that I only liked girls
Which wasn't true I like women too but I didn't turn lesbian...

Now he is dating a girl I used to be friends with... he says he was in love with me and I broke up with my best friend I told him I was still in love with justin and no man could ever replace justin my best friend is like in love with me now and justin hates me but I love him

Hah... I shaved my head bald after I realized what I did would make it impossible to ever get him back I wanted to show him that beauty isn't to me and I don't care what anyone else thinks of me I don't want boys to hit on me I just want him to care about me

Well I don't think he should have to take me back but how do I get him to talk to me ? I just want him to say anything... I hate you... we willl never be again... just need him to tell me he doesn't love me anymore... how do I do that guys if you have any suggestions I really would like your help and ladies you too anyone who has been in this situation

chuff · May 9, 2007, 09:15 PM

How old are you now?

Love at 15 is not love and it probably would not have worked out once the real world takes place and the fantasy that is teenage life was over. I wouldn't worry about it.

chuff · May 9, 2007, 11:17 PM

"HaLlOwEeN_672 agrees: because it is true i just have an inkling of guilt like maybe if i talked to him it would make it okay in a way"

It sounds like what you may have is not so much feelings for him but feelings like you didn't end it properly, or fairly. That may be and I guess if you wanted to tell him the truth it would be a nice gesture but at the same time you should probably let it just die down for now.

I can tell you that I have an ex who dumped me that I remained friends with for several years solely based on the fact that when she dumped me she was so blunt honest I couldn't be mad at her. That being said I'm different then most people.

Jiser · May 10, 2007, 01:36 AM

Originally Posted by chuff

I can tell you that I have an ex who dumped me that I remained friends with for several years solely based on the fact that when she dumped me she was so blunt honest I couldn't be mad at her. That being said I'm different then most people.

Would like to here more about this Chuff?

chuff · May 10, 2007, 06:45 AM

Well I was much younger at the time and she was my first girlfriend as I was here first boyfriend as well so that probably played a part. I think we were both to naïve to play games so it actually worked well in that regard for me as far as the break up. I was 19 and she was going off to college about 4 hours away and she just said that she wasn't going to try and keep a relationship going with her starting school and the distance. I agreed, or more accurately knew she was right so I couldn't really be that upset with her. Plus, which I didn't recognize at the time, but see clearly now when we had started dating the year prior things were different but she was growing up and I was... attempting to grow up. You could just see things were not the same not in a bad way but not in a "we are a match" way either.

But to her credit she didn't blow me off or start a bunch of fights to drive a wedge between us, or cheat on me or anything else she just told me. We remained friends for a long time but eventually life sort of took over and we lost contact.

Unfortunately for me I was spoiled by her in that regard because I've never had the pleasure of someone being so honest since then. I usually get the games, lies, cheating, etc. to find out.