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ldontmeantobemean · May 8, 2007, 10:50 AM

Hi guys,

Me and my boyfriend broke up about 6 months ago after 3 years dating. My problem is: he still keeps our sexy photos (when we were together, we took some kind of naughty ones). Now I have no contact with him since I don't want to. But I'm afraid that odds MIGHT happen someday even though I know that he is a very good guy and he never does bad things about those photos but who knows maybe accident might happen by chance.

I want him to delete them forever but I actually don't have the right to force him to do anything any more. And I don't really want to talk with him. So, any suggestion? HELP!! :confused:

Rockabilly1955mama · May 8, 2007, 10:53 AM

Well, there's not too much you can do in this case. If you really don't want to talk to him how will you let him know that you want thoes pictures gone?

You must be able to tell him the way you are feeling about it.

Lowtax4eva · May 8, 2007, 11:00 AM

On the flipside if you dumped him and bring this up he could accidentally post them somewhere. It just depends if he has any ill feelings at this point

AW805 · May 8, 2007, 11:09 AM

Call him up, tell him nicely that you need to talk to him about something important. When he agrees, tell him you'll meet him at his place. When you're there have him delete the photos in front of you.

ldontmeantobemean · May 8, 2007, 07:44 PM

I couldn't meet him up since we're in different countries now :( SHould I email him? WEll I guess it couldn't help much

gypsy456 · May 8, 2007, 08:22 PM

Different countries... well, send him an email and ask him.
If he doesn't want to... then forget about it.
After all... at the time you did not mind taking the photographs and now it's in your past.

Life goes on.

kp2171 · May 8, 2007, 08:45 PM

I think when you take pics like this you absolutely must be comfortable knowing they might end up out of your possession.

All you can do is ask nicely. After that you can only hope he will honor your wishes.

There's not much more you can do really.

brandy681 · May 8, 2007, 09:53 PM

In this case there is not much you can do and so you can just take this as a lesson learned and not let it happen again. Even if he gives you back the pictures how do you know he won't make coppies. It is very possible that he could post them online out of resentment, etc and you never know who can see it. As long as it is in his possession there is nothing you can do. He could even be mastervating to the photos, on to another matter :) I know some people that go to court over issues like this to get pictures back but that does absolutely no good if he makes coppies. You can try talking with him about the photos but don't do anything to upset him or he will post them up for sure and show friends out of bragging about you, etc.. He may have already showed his friends. I don't know what kind of a boyfriend you had a and what trust you have in him but it is possible that he will just store them away and forget about it but there is unfortunately not much you can do about it but take this as a hard lesson learned.

AW805 · May 8, 2007, 10:26 PM

You could email him and ask him to delete them but then you could stir up the pot. Sometimes its best to let sleeping dogs lie.
Who do you think he'd give or show them to?

mckenzie134 · May 8, 2007, 10:30 PM

Who cares who he shows them to you won't ever no about it anyway so don't even think twice about it. He has probably already showed his mates. When my ex broke up with me I had all sorts of dirty pictures she had sent me on my phone. I showed a few of my mates no big deal once its over its over .

gypsy456 · May 9, 2007, 07:54 AM

All wise words...

Don't make an issue out of it...

Fr_Chuck · May 9, 2007, 09:05 AM

Yes nothing to do, he has as much rights to them as you do, hope you don't end up seeing them on myspace one day. And of course this is one good reason not to do things we would not want told or seen on places like myspace. Most likely he got rid of them when you left, wanting to get rid of things like that, esp get rid of them before a new girlfriend comes into your life.
But again at this point there is nothing you can do about it.

excon · May 9, 2007, 09:11 AM

Hello youdon't:

You're going to run for the Senate one day... I can see it in your eyes.

Therefore, these pictures are a bit more than just an inconvenience. I would offer him money in exchange for his signature on an agreement saying that if these pictures EVER do become public, you can take everything he owns.

But, that's just me.

excon

alizeblu · May 9, 2007, 09:27 AM

WHAT ARE YOU SERIOUS!

You want pictures back from him cause you think he's going to make them public!

Man, how does this stuff happen?

Look you have no right taking those pics from him, as your relationship is OVER, leave him alone, you forget about the pictures.

He will keep them for memories NOTHING MORE.

Guaranteed.

Maybe that's why it didn't work?

Would anyone like a slice of INSECURITES?

Maybe with a glass of PARANOIA?

ldontmeantobemean · May 10, 2007, 09:23 AM

Well, this is tough!
I think I should leave him alone since from friends and his email recently I can see that he still loves me. So I should not make this more serious and hurt him or else he can be mad and do stupid things out of rage

alizeblu · May 11, 2007, 07:55 AM

Well, obviously he still loves you.

Geeze what you think men don't have feelings too?

Look, if you don't want anything to do with him why are you so concerned about stupid pictures?

I think someone's trying to find an exuse to talk with him again.

Who's catching feelings now? Hmm?

alizeblu · May 11, 2007, 08:05 AM

OK OK OK, all sarcasim aside,

Miss, your relationship is over right? So this is the message you send people:

"i need help, my ex has some sexy photos and i dont want them to be made public"

Do you see what message you're sending?

Basically I assume that you ALSO are still in love because you are still thinking about what he's going to do with some stupid photos.

Look I have tons of sexy pics I took of my ex, I look at them everynow and then, and just "wish" that it would go back to the way it used to be.

But I know its not true, so I just lock them away with the rest of her things until I want to "remember" again.

I bet he's not even thinking about what you think he's going to do with them.

That's peoples problems today, they think too much.

Stop thinking so hard and see it as it is.

You don't want anything to do with him? Stop thinking about what's he's going to do with those pics.

Leave him alone.

WAIT, THAT "IS" WHAT YOU WANTED RIGHT? TO "LEAVE HIM ALONE".

So what are you doing wondering about pictures, hmm?

brandy681 · May 11, 2007, 11:36 PM

Just leave the guy alone and try to stop worrying about the photos, what's done is done! You must have not been too concerned if you took the pictures in the first place. Anytime you take nude photos expect them to be seen or DO NOT take them. If you did not know any better just take this as a lesson learned and forget about it and move on with your life.

Okay if you heard that your ex still loves you well that's hear say and you don't know if any of that is true if you have not talked to your ex and if he hasn't called you then it is over and let it go... If he still loves you then of course he is not going to show the photos to his friends because he don't want them to see you nude because he cares 4 you.

In any direction that this situation turns out just leave him alone, it sounds like you are asking about him that is how you found out that he still likes you, and you want him back in your life and you need to let him go hun. You don't know if that is true, maybe he is moving on because if he really cared about you he would call you back or find away to see you. Men do not think the same way as women, it is usually much easier for men to move on then women. So just take everyone's advice and forget about the photos because there is nothing that you can do, if you want to ask for the photos back then do so but if he declines or sais that he lost them etc, just let it got and move on with yout life. Hope this info helps!!

brandy681 · May 11, 2007, 11:43 PM

alizeblu- I think that is kind of sick that you look at your ex gf/bf nude photos. How would your new girlfriend or boyfriend feel about that? That is just my own feelings! I mean why would you want to look at photos of the people that are no longer in your life, for pleasure? Again that is just my own view of the situation and is probably why I don't let people take nude photos of me because years down the road I don't want to think that people are looking at my nude photos. Gross!

talaniman · May 12, 2007, 06:02 AM

Leave him alone, they are his pictures to do as he pleases, better hope he respect you and keeps them to himself, I would, and you would never get them back from me. Sorry.