Check out some similar questions!

reallyconfused1 · May 6, 2007, 03:37 PM

I have been separated from my ex for about 8 months now and I still think about him everyday and want to have him back in my life- I wrote him one letter apologizing for the awful way I treated him near the end but he won't even talk to me!? I feel crazy that I can't get over him and have convinced myself he must still love me somewhat because if he truly didn't care he would probably have responded to my email. Any advice? He got my name tattooed on his forearm about a year ago (we lived together for about three years) and he talked to spending our lives together often. Is it really possible that someone reaches a point where they just don't love you anymore? Or am I crazy that I am still hopeful we can at least be friends in the future? We have known each other since we were 16 and we are now 24. His birthday is in about a month and I found this rare thing he always used to talk about finding but never could. I was going to send it anonymously in the mail around his birthday and I am hoping it will make him more open to at least talking to me. Is this totally insane?? :confused:

AW805 · May 6, 2007, 04:02 PM

Well it's been eight months and it sounds like its pretty much over. I don't think at this point that he'll be getting back together with you considering he hasn't been in any contact with you yet. I'm not sure why you think a non response to your email means that he still cares for you. Quite the opposite. He's over it and its time for you to move on and move forward with your life. You are still young. Stop dwelling on what it could or should be. Be around friends and family - surround yourself with people who love you. And if possible get some counseling.

reallyconfused1 · May 6, 2007, 04:07 PM

Wow I thought this was a site for bouncing ideas and feelings around when people are confused but the answer seems a little harsh? I know it has been a long time, but I said some hurtful things and I know not responding to my email is a sign he doesn't want to talk to me right now, but I just don't think that someone can tattoo your name from their wrist half way up their arm for someone they would never talk to for the rest of their life?! I mean come on give me a little credit here.

Fr_Chuck · May 6, 2007, 04:29 PM

I am sorry but honesty is not being harsh, you have convinsed yourself of some "love" that is not there, You ended the relatonship for a reason, and most likely he did not answer the email since he cares less. And he most likely has moved on, which is what you need to do also.
Start dating, make new friends. If you still can't get over him, get the counseling, since too often obsession gets confused with love.

And Yes, feelings are often wrong, since they won't allow you to judge or see the truth.