[willparsons]

I have been with my girlfriend for nearly a year and she tells me now she wants some space. She feels trapped. It came as a shock. I thought we were getting on so well. Everyone loved our relationship. She said she would like to see a future for us. I don't know how to act around her, as I don't want to invade her space? Can anyone help

[Jiser]

Ok, space this can mean several things. She perhaps has lost interest, become interested in someone else or just needs time to herself.

Now is the time to give her want she wants or you can say bye bye to your relationship. Go out with your friends, party, have a good time, start a new hobby, meet new people and DO NOT mope around feeling sorry for yourself.

People are attracted to confident, happy, smiley people, not clingy dependent ones who do not know when to give space and when do back off. So concentrate on yourself for the time being, do not completely emotionally detach but let her do the running, she will contact you when she feels ready, do not contact her for the time being. Just be fine with all she says, "That is fine, Ill be here when you want to talk!"

[talaniman]

Give her what she wants, backoff and give her space, as you must call to much or see her to much, and she feels that she is missing other things that young people do. The fact that she sees a future means you must be to needy in monopolising her time. Only you know the particulars and you should ask her to define er space so you'll know. Make a few adjustments and see if she appreciates it. Let her call you.