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Harmanie · Jul 27, 2004, 12:49 PM

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See,

I've been living with my aunt and unkle for about eight years on and off and I have not been adopted for the simple fact DCF screwed us over. I told my parents that I didn't mind if I didn't get adopted but I feel so left out kind of. I don't have their last name or anything. I don't know. I know that it is a piece of paper but I just feel hurt and confused. Am I feeling ungrateful?
I don't want them to think that I don't apreciat what they are doing for me. Its just that something will always be empty in me. I just wish I had LEGAL parents you know?
Help!

BattleAngel14745 · Jul 28, 2004, 07:49 PM

Kate,

It's difficult to answer you concern about feeling empty. You have just reason to feel like that. But Kate, understand it's only a feeling. That just because you feel empty does not mean that you are empty. You do belong. You have a family and you have friends that love and care about you. Just because you don't have a text book family does not mean that you don't have a family or don't belong to a family. People that love and care about you are your family and you don't need a piece of paper saying that. Surround yourself with people that love and care about you. Fill yourself with people and things that make you happy. Know that you do belong Kate and you will always belong no matter what. I hope this helps. Take Care.

Always,
Jamie

adelva · Aug 2, 2007, 08:42 PM

Originally Posted by Harmanie

???
See,

I've been living with my aunt and unkle for about eight years on and off and I have not been adopted for the simple fact DCF screwed us over. I told my parents that I didn't mind if I didnt' get adopted but I feel so left out kinda. I don't have thier last name or anything. I don't know. I know that it is a piece of paper but I just feel hurt and confused. Am I feeling ungrateful?
I don't want them to think that I don't apreciat what they are doing for me. Its just that somthing will always be empty in me. I just wish I had LEGAL parents you know?
help!

I understand how you feel and I believe that you will achieve your goal of being adopted. Speak to the parent that are taking care of you and let them know how you feel. Tell them that you feel empty and would be so happy to be able to carry their last name with so much pride. I am sure they would do whatever to make this adoption a reality.
Try very hard to remove those thought of feeling empty and replace it would feel of belonging, because you belong to a family that loves you with all their hearts. Change those thoughts, see yourself being adopted and concentrate and see it happening. If you do this your positive thought of belonging added to you visulization of being adopted will become you very real reality.