[megggggie]

I started lying three years ago to my boyfriend to make up a reason for why I didn't want to drink because I was afraid of getting caught by my paretns.. (I was 14 years old) now I am 17 and I just add to that story.. making matters worse every time, I lie to my boyfrind now and my one friend I looked up to and then my first boyfriend told my other boyfriend what had happened... whcih makes a total of 4 people that know "what happend to me"

I don't know why I do it... but I REALLY want to stop

Do you tihnk if I really try I can just stop.. or do I really need conseling?

I have a normal life, an AMAZING boyfriend for 10 months, great family, excellent grades, I'm pretty (dont want to sound conceited) and have an amazing group of friends... so I don't understand why I am so sad all the time

[RubyPitbull]

Meg, I am posting my response to you're here, since your post is the same as the PM you sent to me. This allow others who have similar problems to find an answer without having to wait for someone to reply.

You are sad all the time because you are a teenager. We all go through it. You are most definitely not alone in your feelings. Confusion and sadness is part of the maturing process into adulthood. It sucks, But, it is the truth.

Meg, I don't know you so I don't know if you can just stop this.
You can try. But, if you don't, just know that you are going to get caught in your lies at some point and everything will blow up in your face. Instead of repeating the lie when people ask you about it, just say, "I don't want to talk about it" and change the subject.

If you find that you can't stop lying, you may want to talk with one of your parents, minister, guidance counselor,. some adult that you trust. It would be better if it was one of your parents. They know you best and if you really want help with this you need to make that clear to them. If you are afraid of talking to your parents, find another adult that you trust. You need some sort of help to stop this and keep this from snowballing any further.

[Wit and Itch]

Think this way
Would you brake up with your boy friend if he told you that he doesn’t drink from fear that his parent will know?
If you like him you would not brake up, you would probably be impressed with his honesty and his respect for his parents.
Why do you thing that your boy friend would react in any other way?
Thy being honest with your friend about something that is not painful to you, and you will see that they will react positive. Than go to more serious issues.
Honesty will help you conquer many fears.