[proffer]

My ex girlfriend and I broke up about 4 years ago, but we never lost contact. If ever she changes her number she updates me, asks my friends about me. Now she is dating someone and she seems to be loving this guy a lot. I've asked her to go to a party with me at my cousins house next month, she agreed and we've been spending a lot of time together lately. I fetch her from work and drop her by her house. We kiss we hug but at the end of the day she wants us to be friends. I told her I can't because I love too much and I can't spend time with her anymore.

I need to let her go but she wasn't happy about that at all and she complains saying I ignore her in social networks, she sometimes block me on whatsapp but inbox me on Facebook and it has come to a point where I don't know what to do about the whole situation. I even broke up with my recent girlfriend when she felt I didn't love her. I could not give her what she wanted, I was cold towards her, so I chose to stay single because of what I feel for my ex.

My question is towards my ex's actions, does she still love me or just wants a pure friendship?

[Fr_Chuck]

You need to move on and forget her. She is using you it appears, in my world, if you hug and kiss, then you are boyfriend and girlfriend, not just friends.

So, explain to her that you can not just be friends, and that you will be blocking her and deleting her from all social media, then do it, block her phone and just move on.

[Oliver2011]

Holy crappies you aren't doing yourself any favors. This will be an emotional roller coaster until you finally decide to move forward. There was a reason you broke up and 4 years removed from the break up you are going to remember the better times and not the things that caused you two to drift apart.

[talaniman]

You are a love junkie chasing your love fix. How else can you explain your utterly insane behavior?

My question is towards my ex's actions, does she still love me or just wants a pure friendship?

DUH!! It's YOUR actions you should question!

[Cat1864]

now she is dating someone and she seems to be loving this guy a lot. I've asked her to go to a party with me at my cousins house next month, she agreed and we've been spending a lot of time together lately,I fetch her from work and drop her by her house.we kiss we hug but at the end of the day she wants us to be friends.

This will sound harsh, but please stop and think.

She is in a relationship. Stop playing games with her and walk away. Take back the invitation to the party. Do not give her any more rides. Do not allow your body to come anywhere close to hers. No kissing. No trying to be friends. No blaming her for your inability to tell her to make out with her boyfriend and beg rides from him. Take responsibility for not putting her in her place which should be out of your life.

She doesn't love you and she isn't acting like she loves him. What she is doing is using at least two males to boost her ego and do her bidding. She is at best a two-timing female who is cheating on the male she is dating. I would almost bet that four years ago she was cheating on you. Is that the person you want in your life? Do really want to have to worry about how many other males she is playing games with?

This has gone past loving into obsession. You are hurting yourself because you refuse to let go and move forward with your own life. You are hurting her current boyfriend by playing games with HIS girlfriend.

Get her out of your life. Go through the grieving process. Let her go. Free yourself and your heart to move on.

In all honesty, you will continue to care for her and you will probably always have a place in your heart for her. That is part of being a caring human being. However, you can let her go and let the feelings fade until they are fond memories filed away. Allow yourself to explore new loves without caring about what the last one thinks or wants.