Ask Experts Questions for FREE Help !
Ask
    Trojan_Robin's Avatar
    Trojan_Robin Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
    New Member
     
    #1

    Dec 21, 2014, 06:12 PM
    My best friends broke up. What now?!
    Okay, so I am friends with two awesome people that are great together. Let's call them Ruth and Ben. Ben was the single kind of guy who hits on every girl at the bar, takes her back to his place, then never see her again. Ruth was the kind of girl who is terrified of commitment and would sometimes overreact at the mere thought of having kids or getting married. Despite all that, Ben told me he had a dream about a horrible accident and when he saw his life flashing through his eyes he saw Ruth. He told me something that I thought I would never hear from him. He said he was in love. And so they started dating, and they were so happy, he gave up all his bad habits for her, and so did she. They were the perfect couple. Until last month, they stopped being all cutie with each other and stopped having adventure and they became bored with life and each other. They broke up and went back to being friends. Ben is back to his unhealthy habits. I know that they will get back together when they realise the mistake they made, but until then how can I look at them and have a little part of me die, because I can't wait to see them happy again. I can't just avoid them, they are my best friends! Please help me!

    PS. And each time they look at each other it's obvious they still have feelings each other

    PSS I see them basically everyday. I share my apartment with Ruth. Ben is there all the time, because he is my best friend. I am feeling this break up is as much my problems as theirs
    talaniman's Avatar
    talaniman Posts: 54,325, Reputation: 10855
    Expert
     
    #2

    Dec 21, 2014, 06:52 PM
    You leave it for them to deal with and stay out of it. It is what it is so why look at them differently at all. Stop dwelling on wishes and what ifs.
    joypulv's Avatar
    joypulv Posts: 21,591, Reputation: 2941
    current pert
     
    #3

    Dec 21, 2014, 07:14 PM
    Goodness! If a little part of you dies, then something is missing in your life. You need a wider circle of friends. How is it that she is your roommate, but he is your best friend? If you can't stay out of it because to do so would require moving out, then stay sympathetic to both, just saying 'You are both dear to me,' and refuse to take sides. But wait - they aren't even angry or depressed, they are bored! So I just don't get this whole big deal. If they truly have feelings for each other, they will get back together. Unless someone gets too helpful!
    Fr_Chuck's Avatar
    Fr_Chuck Posts: 81,301, Reputation: 7692
    Expert
     
    #4

    Dec 22, 2014, 03:35 AM
    Such drama, let it all die, assume they will never get back together, and why would you want them to. I would expect you, to want more for your female friend, than a man, who sleeps with almost anyone.

    You mind your own business, respect their choice, and most likely, no they will not really remain friends.

Not your question? Ask your question View similar questions

 

Question Tools Search this Question
Search this Question:

Advanced Search

Add your answer here.


Check out some similar questions!

What will I say to my friends who just broke up? [ 3 Answers ]

What best words should I give to my friends who just broke up?

My girlfriend broke up with me but wants to be friends. [ 19 Answers ]

Me and my ex had been together for 2 1/2 years. We just broke it off. She claims I'm not showing her enough attention. I've been here for this girl since day one. She works 12 hour shifts Monday through Friday. I really don't see her until Fridays. But I check on her every day while at work. ...

Me and my boyfriend broke up but wants us to be friends? [ 4 Answers ]

Okay so, me and my boyfriend have been together for half a year now and things were going great, then during around October I got busy with my studies and haven't been able to talk to him that much, so two months later I see that he seemed different like we were just friends, then I noticed he kept...

My boyfriend that was my best friends we went out than HE broke up [ 1 Answers ]

If Im On Here It Means That I Need Help From More Than Just My Friend B/c My Friends Tell Me What I Want To Hear Well I Have Loved My Boyfriend Anthony Well Ex-boyfriend Anthony For Two Years Doesn't Sound Like For Along Time But For Me Being In Love Felt Forever But Then This Year I Fianally Got...

Why does he still want to be friends? (he broke it off) [ 2 Answers ]

My ex boyfriend and I were together for eight months. We were/are so in love but we argued too much. We are both very stubborn people. We both are undergoing hard times with family (a death in the family) and work. He asked for a break and I gave it to him. A few days later, I emailed him a date so...


View more questions Search