Is He No Good?
Heads up - I'm a senior in High School, so I know things get better and this won't affect me in the long run, but I need some help right now!
All right bear with me, this is a long question and I ask it mainly because I am very inexperienced with dating and men (this is a question about my first boyfriend ever, actually): should I break up with him?
The background story is this; we've been best friends for a few years, and he's liked me pretty much the whole time (the whole friend-zone thing right?) well at the same time I've liked him too, and so finally, 4 years later, over the summer he and I got together. Our relationship was really good at first, and it was very encouraging for me (because I was semi-afraid of dating someone - hence the inexperience)... He's very much a dreamer, definitely a dork, and is really obsessed with far-out-there scenarios and movie-scenes! Naturally, I thought this would aid him in being more affectionate, but I was definitely wrong. I can almost confidently say never have I received a gift or even a compliment so far that we've been together, and he constantly claims "Babe, we've been best friends for years your know I think you're pretty". And I just really wanted that feeling of being special and having him be proud of me, but I don't... These were problems we were working out in our relationship calmly up until October...
This October has been insanely difficult for me... In the early days of the month, I had a complete tear of my left ACL while playing football. (Awful news for me - captain of the volleyball team and starting pitcher/captain of the softball team) And yet, no card? Nothing from him? It was even homecoming night that weekend and I couldn't accompany him to the dance, and he didn't stop by or send me a text the whole night; plus the only way I found out he was at the dance was over a friend's Snapchat Story?
2 weeks later I'm preparing to go into surgery (happened this past Wednesday) at 6AM and I'm super nervous... I'm feeling slightly better about him and I because he had stopped by once or twice... but he had sat down, watched TV shows, then left... No card, no flowers, no care really (which I understood because it's similar to how non-affectionate he was during the normal parts of the relationship)! Anyway, post surgery: nothing, no care, no cards, no visits, nothing...
Worst of all, almost two days ago now, I fell trying to get into the shower post ACL surgery because I have having a bad reaction to the heavy drugs - luckily, family friends were helping me shower in my underwear - so they were holding me in a chair while I was unconscious, not breathing, and going into seizure... However, they couldn't put me down because my leg wasn't in the brace - so the knee was exposed with only some waterproof coverage on it... Paramedics came, rushed me to the ER, got me stable, held me overnight, I let everyone know friends and family about the whole situation, then voilą the next morning...
No visitors...
I just found out he had been out playing paintball with some buddies and then had gone with out entire friend group to Valley Scare for the afternoon and night...
No one came to visit even though I had almost lost my life the other day... He didn't even text me to ask me how I was feeling the next day... (And now he claims it was because I didn't clarify how bad the situation was but after forwarding my texts I had sent him back to him, I proved that theory wrong)...
I'm really lost, hurt, and confused on what to do... I do really like him, and he makes me really happy; but is he taking advantage of me letting him have second chances? Should I break up with him?
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