[RayDiddle]

My ex boyfriend and I have been on and off for about 3 years now. When we fight it may sometimes take awhile, but we usually always work it out. This time however, he told me he hates me and never wants to talk to me again... I'm very hurt and I just want to make up... does he really hate me or is the anger talking?

[Homegirl 50]

There is no way we can know that but on and off for 3 years does not sound like a stable relationship. What do you fight about?

[odinn7]

There is really no way for anyone online to know if he really hates you or not. We don't know you. We don't know him.

All I can really say for sure is that this sounds like a ridiculous situation. You fight, break up, get back together...repeat as needed. Is that really what you want out of life? Don't you honestly think you can do better?

[Cat1864]

It sounds like he is tired of the roller coaster and is being less than delicate in giving the relationship a permanent ending.

You haven't said why you keep breaking up but this time make it the last time. Stop trying to make-up with him. Let the relationship be over and move forward with your life.

You can't change what has happened and if neither of you were making the necessary adaptations to fix the issues then the present is only a repeat of the past. End the cycle by letting him and the hopes of making up go.

[smoothy]

If you are always on and off... and fighting... you have both been wasting the last three years... because if it's a mess when you start dating... its never going to get any better.

Maybe he finally wised up to this, and now its your turn. Get out now before you waste more time... if it was a good relatinship... you would almost never fight, and rarely have many disagreements.

[J_9]

Shampoo, Rinse, Repeat...

Not a stable relationship at all. Let him go, get healthy yourself and then find someone to be with permanently. Not on again off again.

[Fr_Chuck]

Very possible, hate is often a normal feeling for a ex.

Let him stay a ex and move on.

[Alty]

Only he knows if he meant what he said. But you're now an ex for a reason. Most people don't stay with people they care about. If you break up, it's usually because one person no longer cares about the other. So he may well hate you, especially because it doesn't sound like you had a great relationship.

Let it go, and move on.

[anushkapatel]

If he said it just out of anger then he will get back to you but if he doesn't please don't be heartbroken because you both were anyway not happy in 3 years as it was going on and off. Move on and be happy.