You are now 25, and he's around 27 or so. Maturity has probably set in a bit, for both of you.
If you decide to go forward with him, your arrangement of going slow, is the way to go.
Learn all you can about the past two years that you have not seen each other. Really listen to what he says. When he talks about relationships after you, see if he seems to have gone through a lot of women in the past two years. He may blame them for breakups, or admit things like the last girlfriend he had, did nothing but argue, find fault with him, broke up a bunch of times, etc.
If he has not matured in any other relationship he has had, it isn't likely he is mature enough to start another one with you.
Then again, he may have learned a great deal about himself, and the mistakes he's made, and he could be very honest about it. But, if he's not showing remorse, or insight to mistakes along the way (that we all make), he is likely in the same emotional place he was with you before.
Which would be not much improvement, and then you'd have your answer.
Be subtle about it, and learn all you can about him. Him wanting a relationship with you is only the title of the book. See what type of book it's going to be with you, starting with the chapters on who this man really is, where he's been, how he lives his life.
Guessing whether this relationship will work again, is putting too much faith in a man you already knew.
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