[hithere123]

This is very weird for me I have never done this before! but I got to the point where goggling the problem led me nowhere. I am a girl and I am 22 years old. I had a best friend (guy) that I have know for almost 4 years or so. We use to be very close and we basically know everything about each other and I used to always tell him if I were to every marry a guy it would be you. He has been there for me through everything and vice versa. Slowly we drifted. We stopped talking, and he completely flipped on me, now went we see each other we say hello as complete strangers. We use to always cuddle, always be sweet with one another and he has always shown attention in every possible way. He knows I am gay and he never had an actual problem with it. A while back, we disappeared from one another's lives. So one night I was passing by the bar he works in to surprise him because I missed him terribly. As I entered the bar, he looked at me and had a huge smile. He therefore hugged me and I sat at the bar waiting for him. he finished what he was doing and came straight up to me and hugged me again, but one strange and awkward thing happened. He kissed me! It didn't bother me on the contrary I was overwhelmed. we continued the night we were so close and glad to be catching up. I disappeared once again for a little while and got back the same thing happened but this time it was more intense. Things started to get more and more awkward stuff kept on happening between us but we never went all the way. So I suddenly decide to confront him about it, he freaked out on me (because I am gay), but I can't help but loving him. The confrontation was basically about us fighting and making out. And now it is all a big mess and I really don't know how to fix this whole mess. HELP ANYONE ???

[ma0641]

I think you need to talk to a professional about your "gay /not gay "issues. "If I were to marry a guy, it would be you ". You " never went all the. way" with him but claim to be gay. You wonder why he gets upset when you seem to use "gay " as a no farther defense.

[Alty]

You're playing with him. He obviously has feelings for you, and you obviously have feelings for him, which you're denying. You tell him you're gay, then seek him out, make out with him, lead him on. You're playing games with him, and it's not fair.

You need to figure out what you want. If you don't want a romantic relationship with him, which he obviously wants with you, and you're letting him believe it's possible, then disappear from his life, and stay gone. He doesn't deserve to be played with.

Forget about what you want, and think about him instead. Think about what you're doing to him. Your actions betray your professed sexual orientation. You're really not being fair to him. It's not all about you, and the sooner your realize that, the better. If you care about him, let him go so he can find someone that won't continue to lead him on.

Sort out your own stuff, then seek love. You're the one that seems to be confused, and it's not fair at all to play with someone else's heart because you can't decide what you want.