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anonym-user1994 · Mar 15, 2014, 08:08 AM

Hi. It's kind of awkward for me to post on forums like these, so please bear with me. The title isn't a 100% correct, because I am capable of orgasming with a regular fap. However, with a more extreme stimulational source, I can't (e.g. Sexual intercourse). "Then what's the problem?" You might ask?

Well, the problem is that after two hours of "going at it" I still don't orgasm, while my girlfriend would have had one several times. (How do I know it? My girlfriend and I tried to do the sexual endurance training, she ended up with a sore neck and pair of arms and gave up). Great for her really, I'm happy I'm not being outlasted (Like most men), but to be unable to keep up with how long I last?
After a hour I always end up wheezing like a old man who just ran the first marathon in his entire life! And in the end, I'm unsatisfied, and I have a sore penis. There you have my problem.
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So to the question (which is a bit shorter) : anyone has a solution for my problem? Besides working on my condition, which I already am doing.

Catsmine · Mar 15, 2014, 10:57 AM

Several different issues come into play under your one question.

"Regular Fap" is a very common cause of inability to ejaculate during sex for a variety of reasons:
1) During masturbation the tendency is to grip tightly to increase the sensation of the ejaculate flowing out. Most men grip much tighter than a vagina can.
2) There are no distractions during masturbation such as how she's feeling, how your lower back is doing, that gripping thing from #1, and that worry referred to as 'performance anxiety' as to whether you'll be able to ejaculate this time.

Her sore neck and arms were presumably from maintaining one position. Try changing. Several times. Hopefully with each change of position you'll become more excited and closer to climax.

Constant intercourse for a solid hour SHOULD leave you short of breath.

The only solution available from the information you posted would be to stop masturbating for a week or two and see if that helps you get off with her.

anonym-user1994 · Mar 15, 2014, 04:44 PM

Hi, thanks for the detailed answer(s), though there's nothing you just mentioned we didn't already try.

This post is literally a last-resort.

Fr_Chuck · Mar 15, 2014, 08:42 PM

Also, if you masturbate a lot, the man gets use to his firmness and control making it harder to orgasm without masturbation. So after a hour of sex, or so, (god it is good to be young.lol) you just finish with masturbation while she watches.

If you do masturbate a lot, perhaps try not for a few weeks and see if that helps.

anonym-user1994 · Mar 16, 2014, 07:12 AM

Hi, and thanks for taking the time answering, Fr_Chuck.

Catsmine already stated this in his comment, and we tried this first hand months ago. It didn't help.

Once again, we did take our time looking for solutions ourselves before posting on these "forums". This is our last resort.

ps. Finishing it with masturbation is what we have done so far.

talaniman · Mar 16, 2014, 07:32 AM

Flip the script by starting the sex with masturbation, and plenty of foreplay before getting to the main event. Replace the endurance competition with old fashion mental love making. Focus on the journey, not the destination. The problem as I see it is the lack of knowledge and cooperation that has to be overcome. You have taken the physical thrill and made it into a waste of energy exercise session.

The brain is the biggest most sensitive sex organ you have and be a shame not to fully use it and be stuck on physical instead of exploring the mental.

anonym-user1994 · Mar 16, 2014, 12:53 PM

Foreplay? Done that. Plenty. Doesn't help (for me anyways) even though it's something we always do(and we both enjoy it).

Endurance competition? What are you talking about? I think you completely misunderstood me. There has been no form of competition what so ever. My "sexual endurance" is the problem here, my conditional endurance can't exactly keep up with it.

"Lack of knowledge and cooperation"? That's just insulting our relationship. Cooperation has never been a problem. And for as far knowledge goes : we have internet, and our own brains to comprehend and execute the knowledge we find.

"You have taken the physical thrill and made it into a waste of energy exercise session. "
Stop picturing me like a cave-man, thank you very much.

Look, I appreciate the answers, but I don't think most of them are very much thought trough.

My issue is not going to be resolved with the following :
Stances
Rhythm
Anything psycological
Experience (We both have plenty of experience... well, I do anyway.)

Thanks again for the help currently given, it's appreciated that people take their time to bother, though sadly the answers didn't include anything that we didn't already try or thought of (so far).

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To simplify things a bit :
Everything that stimulates my glans (besides the light stimulation of whatever's left of my foreskin) prevents me from orgasming.

talaniman · Mar 16, 2014, 01:46 PM

All that's left is professional help. Pay someone to tell you how to get a nut. It may be a simple as not having nut juice so start with a doctor.

dontknownuthin · Mar 16, 2014, 01:47 PM

Maybe see a urologist. You have eliminated every category anyone can advise you on.

Cat1864 · Mar 16, 2014, 01:53 PM

I think this might be where the misinterpretation occurred on the 'endurance' issue.

Originally Posted by anonym-user1994

My girlfriend and I tried to do the sexual endurance training, she ended up with a sore neck and pair of arms and gave up).

You gave very little information about what has been tried. You haven't even said how long you have been experiencing this issue and if it was an issue with previous partners. How old are you? Could there be an age related issue?

If you now say that you have tried everything suggested then I have two suggestions.

1. If 'extreme' sensation is a problem try using condoms to limit sensation or have you tried that?

2. See your doctor and find out if there is more going on than you realize. Maybe there is a medical issue causing the problem. It seems to be the only thing left.

anonym-user1994 · Mar 19, 2014, 01:19 PM

talaniman, I have sufficient juice, thanks for thinking though.

Hello Cat1864, it has been a issue with a previous partner, though I simply ignored it.
-I'm 20.
-We tried, I already ordered... thicker, besides the casual ones.

At any rate, at the hand of the information given, I gues we basically already tried or are trying everything that could be thought of.
Thanks for taking the time to respond to this post everyone!

talaniman · Mar 19, 2014, 02:26 PM

Well please keep us updated to the follow up with a professional.

Elle16 · Mar 19, 2014, 02:37 PM

The symptoms you are describing sound like a condition called delayed ejaculation. I'm posting a link to give you more information on this condition. I have been married for over 25 years to a man with this problem, and there are ways that you can still have a fulfilling sex life.
Delayed ejaculation: MedlinePlus Medical Encyclopedia