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    hopelesslyconfused Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Apr 2, 2007, 03:17 PM
    Emotional wreck
    My girlfriend of four years recently broke up with me over an anger issue I have. She tells me that I've had this problem too many times before and that she can no longer believe me when I say that it won't happen again. Since we have broken up I have enrolled myself in anger management in order to not only help myself but in hopes of getting her back as well. We have been talking now for about a month and I have expressed interest in working the problem in our relationship out and getting back together. She has said that she would like to be able to regain trust in me and fix the relationship as well but still remains distant when we talk about anything other than friends (relationship issues). When I questioned her about it the other day she said that she wasn't sure that the relationship feelings would ever come back but hoped they might sometime down the road and wanted to be friends to work things out until then. When I called her yesterday she was extremely distant and told me that she only wanted to talk when we had something fun or exciting to tell the other. I don't understand anything about the girl anymore and it kills me everyday to think that I ruined the best thing in my life. She seems to be someone completely different than the beautiful and loving person she was only 3 months ago. This has caused me to be an emotional wreck, constantly asking her questions about the relationship and having more ups and downs than a roller coaster. My mood rises and falls with her level of interest and answers to my questions. I know what I did wrong but I now have no clue how to fix it... how do I get her back?
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    Apr 2, 2007, 06:45 PM
    It sounds like she has started down the road of getting over the breaak up. Unfortunately, she may not come back. She had every right to leave and it is great that you have improved yourself because of it, but you may have to except that she might not want to come back and you will then have to move on yourself.
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    Apr 2, 2007, 07:09 PM
    Deal with it.

    Don't be upset. You shouldn't have to change your ways to please someone. She left you because there were things she didn't like. It doesn't mean that it was wrong. It just means the two of you didn't have a similar perspective on . It's not your fault or hers.

    I suggest you just get back in the game and find an individual who does enjoy the anger. Lifes a lot more fun when you be yourself.
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    Apr 3, 2007, 05:14 AM
    Forget the relationship and deal with your issues. Why would any one come back to someone who scares and confuses them? Focus on you.

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