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pocock5 · Dec 22, 2013, 07:23 AM

Just a couple of quick things- this girl had a boyfriend she dumped him. We had always been friends but then we started talking about things e.g. she told me she was going to break up with her bf (even held hands in a fun friendly kind of way). We talked and laughed it was nice/fun. She went on holiday for a week the other day for Christmas. While she is away I am going to several parties of both our friends. What would happen if I got involved with a girl at this party- like a one night stand. I am seeing the girl at a NYE party. So basically what I am saying is would it be unwise to do anything while she is away or is it a free country as we aren't in a relationship or anything. Just wanted some opinions.
Thanks

talaniman · Dec 22, 2013, 08:17 AM

Nobody can forecast or predict how things will go with your booty call/one night stand, or your expectations for a romance with a friend who may, or may not dump her boyfriend. Best suggestion is live your life and see what happens. You may not get a one night stand, nor romance with a friend. I know your plan, but too many things can happen very quickly like she misses the guy she dumped. Or doesn't want romance just fun with friends for a while. Or you get feelings for a one night stand? Anything could happen that messes up this grand plan of yours.

How old are you both, and what makes you think fun/nice translates to her being ready from moving you from the friend zone to romance?

pocock5 · Dec 22, 2013, 01:16 PM

We are both 18. But I am not saying this is definitely going to turn in to a romance, or even if I want it too. It is just hypothetically how bad would it be for her, is she expecting me to do nothing with anyone else?

talaniman · Dec 22, 2013, 01:40 PM

You're just friends, why would she expect you not to explore options with others? What if she wants to explore her options and she is single? I would expect much of a girl fresh out of a relationship, friends, fun, or not. I wouldn't want to be a rebound, her emotional medicine while she gets over the ex, and is healed, and ready to REALLY explore her world.

Have your own find and explore and experiment your own options for fun and romance, and to be honest, planning a one night stand isn't a very good idea either.

pocock5 · Jan 1, 2014, 01:59 PM

Before they broke up the guy got her a present of two tickets to a gig. After the break up he wanted her to keep them, he was really distraught about the break up. And so she asked me if I would like to go with her. Firstly, is it all right for me to go even as friends and if so should I tell the guy that I am going with her. Like out of respect or is there nothing wrong and I can do as I please. Thanks in advance .

talaniman · Jan 1, 2014, 04:32 PM

How would you want to be treated if your girl dumped you and wanted to take someone you knew well to a concert with your tickets you had gotten for you both before the break up?

pocock5 · Jan 1, 2014, 06:53 PM

Well granted it wouldn't feel very good. But we would simply be going as friends, you are saying that the ex is going to have problems with her having any guy friends. Remember he wanted her to have the tickets even after the break up because they were for her benefit and maybe a friend he was not definitely going in the first place. Lasty the concert is in well over a month and so tensions may have died down.