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    Dec 20, 2013, 05:19 AM
    I think my boyfriend has lost interest in me.
    I've been going out with my boyfriend for almost 2 months now, I have to say since we started dating everything was perfect, he was looking for a long term relationship just like I was. In my eyes he is perfect, I haven't seen him in over a month now because we live far apart. But that has never caused any problems between us. I call him when I can and that's like 5/6 times a week. Last Saturday he mentioned that he feels bad that we haven't seen each other in a month and that he feels my feelings towards him have changed. And to be honest, I love him so much, no distance will change my feelings towards him, he also mentioned how afraid he is that I might leave him and find someone better than him, that broke my heart because I would never break his heart.

    He told me that in the past he loved too much but got hurt in the end and now he is afraid I'm going to do the same, and that fear makes him not want to be in a relationship. I also have that fear but I don't throw it around. I'm terrified of losing him and I won't ever break his heart. But ever since he told me about it, it's like he has lost interest in me and that hurts me a lot, maybe I'm imagining things but lately when I call him he doesn't say much, when I don't say 'I love you' to him he doesn't say it, he just says 'bye'. He doesn't greet me in the mornings I have to text him first even if its midday and I couldn't text, he won't say anything until I do.

    Could he have lost interest in me since we are so far from each other. Or am I too clingy? I've learnt not to be clingy cause I get hurt in the end, Now I don't know what's going through his head. I'm scared he might tell me he doesn't want to go out with me anymore.
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    Dec 20, 2013, 10:53 AM
    You have only been dating two months and it's long distance dating.
    Maybe he was giving you excuses because he is no longer feeling you, I don't know but don't push it. Maybe you should leave him alone. If he wants to talk to you he will. 2 months is a very short period especially when you don't see each other that much. It is also "getting to know you, lets see if there is anything between us " time. Maybe there is nothing there for him.
    People throw I love you around so flippantly. You two don't really know each other, have not spent enough time with each other to be in love.
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    Dec 20, 2013, 11:20 AM
    You both sound insecure and afraid and need reassurance and that's typical of the problems of long distant relationships. Don't feed the fear, reassure and get reassurance back by expressing your own fears.

    It's tough when you can't touch, and in us humans that's a powerful things. Scary is an understatement the longer it goes. Keep the minds connected and on the same page.

    To add, LDR's so early before you have had a chance to really bonded and established deep trust is also a source of fears as you really are strangers still.

    You are probably sharing the same fear so acknowledge it and deal with it together.

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