[Derek001]

Hi

My wife and I are trying to having a child since last 5 months, but she is not conceiving. She does keep a pillow under her after intercourse for 20 minutes but still it's not working.

She also says that some of the semen comes out when she stands. I am not sure what we need to do ?

[smoothy]

That's normal... can you keep milk in a cup that's upside down?

It might take several years of trying... the people that get pregnant right way are usually the ones that don't want to be.

If you have been unable to get pregnant after 2 or 3 years, then its time to see a fertility specilist for tests on both of you.

Until then... relax and enjoy yourselves. You will probibly succeed before that time comes.

You might also want to do some research on BASAL TEMPERATURE CHARTS.

Do that and after several months you can find what day she ovulates on and know when to concentrate you efforts.

[Alty]

It takes the average couple 1-2 years to conceive once they start actively trying. Tracking ovulation is a good place to start, so that you can ensure that you're having sex on her most fertile days. Smoothy did mention basal temperature. It's something you do every day to track her ovulation. It usually takes around 6 months of tracking daily before you can accurately pinpoint when ovulation occurs.

I don't agree that 2-3 years is when you should see a specialist. If you've been actively trying for a year you can speak to your doctor. By two years I'd definitely be seeing a specialist in fertility.

As for sperm coming out when she stands, that happens with every woman, no matter how long you lie on your back with your legs propped up. It's a very minute amount. There's more than enough sperm left inside to get the job done.

Good luck.

[Derek001]

Hi

Whenever I try to penetrate my wife I find that her vaginal opening is too small and my penis cannot really penetrate it. However I can put one finger into the vaginal opening. Not sure how to make it work.

[Fr_Chuck]

With proper foreplay you will be able to enter. If this is her first time, there may be some pain involved.

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[Alty]

Vagina's are very elastic. If they can stretch enough to allow a baby to pass through, the average male penis will have no problem.

It's likely that you're not stimulating her enough to allow penetration, or she's extremely nervous and her body is reacting accordingly.

[Cat1864]

Your threads have been merged to keep all information and advice about your sexual issues in one place.

Your questions are bit contradictory. Are you actually having intercourse?

If your wife is unprepared or hesitant about having sex then she will not be able to relax enough to be fully aroused and ready for penetration. If it hurts when you try to penetrate her, her body will shut down making it more difficult. Part of a woman becoming aroused is her body opening up to accept your penis inside of it. You can't just decide it is time for penetration and go for it.

Foreplay and arousal start long before you ever get close to taking clothes off. This is something you need to talk about with your wife to find out what turns her on.

If she is in pain when you try to have sex and she appears to be ready, then she may need to see her doctor for a check-up. Some women do have physical conditions that can make it difficult or painful to have sex.

[smoothy]

I agree.. VERY contradictory, how can she worry about semen leaking out if you can't have intercourse in the first place? So which of the two situations is it?