[Amonra97]

Okay so basically I am/was very good friends with this girl and we ended up having a thing, we both liked each other and we saw each other all the time, in the holidays almost every day and also in the holidays we were always either on skype or talking on the phone and I was really happy like the happiest I had been in a long time I loved seeing her and I like everything about hers and it got to a point where I didn't really talk to anyone else and I would decline other offers to catch up with just in case she asked if I was around, but when term hit and her exams came up, we didn't really talk at all and it really hurt me, but she apologised for all that, and we began talking more often and then she said she felt like we didn't talk as often as we used to that I was short answering her and she felt like I didn't even want to be her friend any more (which was untrue), so I tried my best to talk to her more, but we still drifted apart. Now she seems to be very close to my best friend and acts the same way around him as she did with me when we had a thing and although I'm used to her flirting with him all the time now, I think about it when I get home and I just want to punch a hole in my window or cry, every time I see her it hurts either during the meeting or afterwards regardless of whether it was one on one or a group of people, it hurts, I hate it I'm not happy anymore it takes a lot for me to have sustained happiness now, I feel like something's missing and it sucks, I don't know what to do... I have told people I don't like her anymore and I think I don't maybe its just the memories and the feelings I felt that I miss but I don't know please help me...

[Oliver2011]

Ewwwww. Even from an outsider looking in, clingy and needy is so unattractive. It must be incredibly unattractive to her.

So many people fall into the relationship pitful of giving up all their friends and activities for a relationship that may or may not work out. "I didn't really talk to anyone else and I would decline other offers to catch up with just in case she asked if I was around." That is such the wrong move because when she is gone your friends have moved on as well. Then you are left with nothing. Next time you start with another girl, keep your friends and activities. Then 2 things happen: First the time you have with her will be more special and second you will still have your fun friends and activities.

Until you understand what a mature relationship is and until you stop being so clingy and needy, you will not understand what a relationship is supposed to be. Sorry, but that is just the plain truth of it.