[damnineedhelp]

Hello! I accidentally met a girl online, on Facebook. We talked a lot in the last week, and she told me she broke up with her boyfriend about 2 months ago after a 3 years old relationship. I told her I did the same about 4-5 months ago,

Yesterday I asked her out someday, and she said OK, but she told me that she doesn't t want anything yet, meaning a relationship or flirt or anything, cause she isn't prepared yet. I said no problem, my proposal is still up. By the way we talked, she seems a really cool girl, she told me that she likes me and so on, that she doesn't trust men anymore, I told her I don't trust women anymore ever since my last relationship. Actually I told her the trust issue first :).

Now, my question is: How shall I act. Besides the fact that in NO WAY should I become her friend, meaning 2 hang out with her and so on, as in becoming best friends. What is the strategy in this situation. And how am I supposed to know when she's ready for something more serious.

[Oliver2011]

Is she even in the same city as you? If not, what is the point?

"I told her I don't trust women anymore ever since my last relationship." What? You asked what is the strategy. The strategy is don't start a relationship with drama. If I was her and you made that statement to me, I would have given you the boot immediately.

[talaniman]

The strategy is just online buddies, and work on your real life. She may sound cool online, but why stop at her? Lots of real cool girls out there that are available in real life.

The whole point is to not build a fantasy life around a computer buddy. Keep things in their proper perspective for your own sake. She already told you she isn't ready and waiting until she is ready for what you want is a waste of time. You have your own issues to deal with any way, and your own life to rebuild.

[pwooden]

Although most girls are taught the traps set for them in online relationships, most guys think they are invulnerable. Let's start by asking what do you do NOT know about this person:
* Is it even a girl? It's easy to post fake pictures, and this is a common trick used by perverts fishing for victims. Before you say "No way!" be aware that this an extremely common trick used on the Internet. Ask any cop.
* She never mentioned her trust issues until you did, then it was like "Oh yeah, me too!" A good trick to gain your sympathy. Does she do this a lot--not mention interest in something until you do?
* Have you any proof that anything she said is not a lie? You would need to talk to someone who knows her (not someone she recommends) in order to be sure she's telling the truth.
* THIS IS VITAL. Do not agree to meet "her" anywhere except in a very public place that you have chosen. Have escape transportation available and never allow someone you just met to take you somewhere, no matter what they promise you.
* Hopefully, I'm wrong, but is it worth taking the risk that I'm not?

[damnineedhelp]

Yup she is.actually I saw a comment of a friend of hers which I know.and I started talking to her.the thing is that thst xommon friend has been hitting on me for a while now.this new girl starred telling me about this common friend and I found out that that girl has a 6 years old relationship.that's why I told her that trust issue

The only person I know who knows her is this common friend who is hitting on me and lied to me that she is solo.and told me some things about this girl which had proven all lies.she is real we went in the same higgschool only that she is 3 years older and never saw her