[rikku3464]

Im trying to save money up and I told my mom once my next birthday had came that would be the day I start. She agree well, the 1st check I got after my birthday, I went and bought Christmas presents for my mom and the rest of my family, well the last pay check I got, which was yesterday, I put that and the extra money I had kept over the last couple of months, I put that all in a piggy bank, and locked it up, today she said that she wanted it and that if I didn't give it to her, she would send me to my bio father, who has no job, and is running from the cops so he don't pay child support, and that If I quit my job she would send me to him. She noes where he is, but the gov. don't. She said that I have to give her 98% of my check and for the next few months, Im to give her my checks and I don't get any of it. It goes straight to the bills, so she has money. What can I do about this? The thing about my bio father is, he Is a drug addict, has a child molester as a father, seriously, he went to prison and everything,(he is out now) anyway my bio father, is a drug addict, don't pay child support and has NOTHING to do with any of his 3-4 kids, and most definitely has more. He is a very bad person. So what can I do about my mom with my money?

[Wondergirl]

How does your mom pay the bills now (without your money)?

[joypulv]

You are still a minor (16?).
First, are you in school? Are you working full time or part time?

This is not the sort of situation that should reach the level of threats to send you to your father.
You need to sit down with your mother and make a list of her income and expenses, and work out an amount to chip in for rent and food.
You are living with her for free (as a teen should, as long as you are in school). You probably don't realize yet how expensive it is just to live on your own. You had a paycheck and spent it all. Fine!
Now it's time to show some understanding of your mother, but I see no reason to give her every penny you earn.

[rikku3464]

I just turned 17, I was saving for my lisens and my apartment that I was going to move into, cheap to. I already had almost a years worth, of rent. I work a part time job, and I go to school. And she pays the rent just fine, if she can give my step dad a 100 every weekend to go out. Then she has no right to take a penny from me. How do I fix this

[Wondergirl]

Do you have any idea why she suddenly wants such a huge cut of your earnings?

[Alty]

If your father is running from the law, and your mother knows where he is, but isn't telling the cops, she's in a lot of trouble when they find out. She can't send you to him, all you'd have to do is tell a cop where he is, and tell them that she's threatening to send you to a man that's wanted by the police. He'd be arrested, and she likely would be too. So she's either dumber than a post, or she's making empty threats.

Having said that, if you're earning money and money is tight, and you're obviously old enough to work, it makes sense for you to pitch in for your living expenses. But she can't take your entire check, and she can't threaten to kick you out or send you to a man that's wanted by the police, if you don't do what she says.

This story isn't logical at all.

[rikku3464]

I mean she has an idea. He is wanted by the cops because of child support. And you it won't bother me to pitch in. but she's forcing me to do it. She said she's taking it for the rent and utilites and even the expense around the house. I do want to help with that all. Its just how I am. You ask and you shall resive no matter what but you try to force me the answer is no. that's how my mom is to. I mean she just taking my check and god if she kick me out id love that because then I don't have to worrie about her, and I can save and learn my own way. I'm not stupid. She says I am, and that I won't make it on my own. That I don't know what I'm doing. And maybe I don't. But when I set my mind to do something I do it. I have my mind dead set on saving and get my lisens and car and my own apartment. But now I cant. She said she will be picking up on the days I get paid and I HAVE to sign it straight over to her. I don't know what to do. Frankly I am scared of her I don't know why. I have come from a very bad and upsetting past. I have seen her struggle, and fight for me and my half brother for a home and food. I understand that. I want to help, its just I don't know what to do. I want out. I want to graduate and my friend who is 29 and girl. Is going to cal. and there is a cheap collage down there for people who don't have a lot of income. And I was going down their so I can go to collage and be close to family and friends. (my parents don't know about this) I have asked my friends on what I can do. They said go to the court and get emancipated. (become an adult under the age of 18) but I don't want the rest of my family to hate me. They think everything my mom is doing is right, and that what I'm trying to do to save is not. They think I blow my money. That's because I take it out of my bank and I keep it hidden so that way when I do move out ill have money that my mom won't have access to. But she wanted it or shed sent me to my bio father. I can't go there. They are literally mentally unstable. (add, adhd, bipolar, etc.. Narcolepsy ) I just don't know what to do. Without losing everything. Any ideas?

[rikku3464]

I don't know why she wants all of my money. She says she money pinching. Yet she's able to give my step dad money to do w.e with

[Alty]

I mean she has an idea. He is wanted by the cops because of child support. And you it won't bother me to pitch in. but she's forcing me to do it. She said she's taking it for the rent and utilites and even the expense around the house. I do want to help with that all. Its just how I am. You ask and you shall resive no matter what but you try to force me the answer is no. that's how my mom is to. I mean she just taking my check and god if she kick me out id love that because then I don't have to worrie about her, and I can save and learn my own way. I'm not stupid. She says I am, and that I won't make it on my own. That I don't know what I'm doing. And maybe I don't. But when I set my mind to do something I do it. I have my mind dead set on saving and get my lisens and car and my own apartment. But now I cant. She said she will be picking up on the days I get paid and I HAVE to sign it straight over to her. I don't know what to do. Frankly I am scared of her I don't know why. I have come from a very bad and upsetting past. I have seen her struggle, and fight for me and my half brother for a home and food. I understand that. I want to help, its just I don't know what to do. I want out. I want to graduate and my friend who is 29 and girl. Is going to cal. and there is a cheap collage down there for people who don't have a lot of income. And I was going down their so I can go to collage and be close to family and friends. (my parents don't know about this) I have asked my friends on what I can do. They said go to the court and get emancipated. (become an adult under the age of 18) but I don't want the rest of my family to hate me. They think everything my mom is doing is right, and that what I'm trying to do to save is not. They think I blow my money. That's because I take it out of my bank and I keep it hidden so that way when I do move out ill have money that my mom won't have access to. But she wanted it or shed sent me to my bio father. I can't go there. They are literally mentally unstable. (add, adhd, bipolar, etc.. Narcolepsy ) I just don't know what to do. Without losing everything. Any ideas?

If he's wanted for not paying child support, there's been a hearing and the cops are looking for him, she can't send you to him. Also, if he doesn't have custody she can't send you to him, she'd have to go to court for that. He's a fugitive. If she knows where he is and the cops are looking for him, and she's not telling them, which is what you posted, she's in trouble too. She can't take your paycheck, you earned it, she has no right to it. She can't demand it.

Just a side note. If you want to go to college, you really should be able to spell it. Collage is a group of pictures cut out to make a nice design, it's not a place you can go to, it's art. You should also know the difference between there, their, and they're. Resive isn't a word, receive is. Worrie isn't a word, worry is. You want your license, not a lisens. I'd concentrate on school, not working part time. Graduate, learn what you need to to get into college, then leave home. Right now there's no way you'd be accepted into college. No way at all.

[rikku3464]

I'm on here to ask for help. I was tired when I typed this. So yes I am going to have spelling mistakes. I am sorry. I spell the way I want, when I am not at school. I need help, not spelling advice. I appreciate it. But people come to this website for advice and help, not to get remarked about their spelling errors.

[joypulv]

We've told you that she can't send you to your father, she can't take your paycheck, and advised you on what to do. If she won't sit down with you to talk income and expenses of all people in the house, then offer her a fixed percentage of your paycheck, or fixed amount each month. Don't forget groceries.
What more do you need answers to?
Getting emancipated requires application to Family Court, and isn't at all automatic. Many are turned down.

[rikku3464]

OK so she took my money already, it was in cash from my paycheck, and I cashed it as a gas station, what can I do to get that money back. And stop her from punishing (grounding, taking things away, fly like a bird- holds arms up straight out with out moving (trust me that hurts!) constinenly cleaning, can't go anywhere... etc) me because I won't give it to her. What can I do

[Alty]

OK so she took my money already, it was in cash from my paycheck, and I cashed it as a gas station, what can I do to get that money back. And stop her from punishing (grounding, taking things away, fly like a bird- holds arms up straight out with out moving (trust me that hurts!) constinenly cleaning, can't go anywhere... etc) me because I won't give it to her. What can I do

Call CPS.

[rikku3464]

Thank you guys for all your help, I'm just going to give her my money, so there is no probs, between her n I. THANK YOU

[joypulv]

See if you can open a savings account. That way you can cash checks at the bank, or better yet, have direct deposit of your pay.