[salsa]

Hello everyone,
Indeed, I am the daughter not the mother, and I did not know where to submit my question, and I chose to be under Parenting. My story is as following :

My mother is a beautiful young-look lady who really looks like my sister not my mom. However, this lovely lady lived about 20 years of suffering and fighting with my father which is a very rude rough person who beats her for any reason; can you believe that they can never never ever spend a whole week without fighting for Nothing, yes nothing. And that is not all, he is a rich man and he does not give her her rights from money to take care of herself by buying new clothes, make-up , and so on,, and he does not give her love, she always tells me :''since the first day I married him I swear that we started by fighting for nonsense and never been in a romantic feel with him"'. And he does not leave us do anything that may entertain us,, even when we travel with him,, they fight so everythig lacks joy and happiness when done with him. Now I am studying for the first year at a university in another country than the one where we used to live, as it is my first time to live alone , my mom decided to stay with me in this country and we left my dad and my 15years brother there. So for killing time she started to access the internet for meeting new people as I am busy with my study.

Briefly, she met a guy who she chat with and talk to on the phone and now she is thinking of leaving my father and get married with this man who she feels taken care of and interested in,, she wants to start a new life with him and travel to another country and then we will follow her there... I don't know what to do and what to say because she spent the best years of her life in a dark life full of pain, tears and suffering with dad until I graduate and my brother will be after a couple of years.. she really deserves to have a better life and to know what happiness, joy, and being beloved by someone respects her. Is . But what about my dad who did a lot for us (his children) and now he is paying a lot of money for my education and he let her to live with me for a year too faaaar from him just to take care of me, and then I cheat on him by seeing my mother's actions and doing nothing...
Ah by the way he used to call her everyday (dad)here but she shows that she does not care about him anymore and she does not want him to call her everyday like that (but she never said so to him),, And I believe that if she tend to do such a thing which is escaping,, a big infinite bunch series of troubles will be made and all of us will be victims of it because I know the nature of my father which is a very angry trouble maker person... and to add: we -his children - don't have an intimate relationship with him as a father as we are living a very bad meaningless life with him, we have only bad memories about him... Finally,I am sorry that I took time from you to try to give you a brief idea about her situation and you will be the judges,, I need opinions and advices about this /// thank you

[jonjons1girl]

First off, I believe your mom deserves a chance at happiness. Yes it may hurt all of you, but your better off at school and away from your dad. No one deserves to live like that, I pray that you all have a happier life to come!