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    acrylicpaints77 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Oct 29, 2013, 09:03 AM
    I still love my ex, says he wants time but then says we won't ever get back together.
    I've known this guy for over a year now and we've been dating for only 8 months. Back in the beginning of the relationship I broke the trust in the relationship and lied to him 2 or 3 times, I regret it every day. I didn't cheat on him or do anything to hurt him intentionally, but I know it hurt him more then anything. But he was strong and we worked past that, now lately I've had little confidence in myself always feeling like he can do better, or that I'm not enough for him so I've been snappy and distant not communicating the way I should. He thinks I want other guys, but that's also not the case at all. I've gotten rid of all social networks to even prove to him that I don't need any other guy in my life besides him.

    But about a month ago he broke it off and he some days is really kind and talks about us doing better and maybe getting back together, and then other days he just wants nothing to do with me and says we'll never ever have a chance. He admits he still loves me, and he says it's difficult, but I'm afraid he'll move on to someone that can treat him better or just forget me in general. How can I cope with this all it's driving me insane, I'm not sure whether to wait for him and if I do wait how to go about it in a mature adult manner, or to just drift away and maybe eventually just be friends if even. I'm not exactly sure what he wants, he's generally so loving and kind.

    We lived together for a while so to go from seeing him every day to now maybe once for 2 hours every 2 weeks is destroying me. I just want to better myself so he can see how much I care about him. I just hope I'm not waiting around trying to better myself for us when in the end he could find some knockout sweet new girlfriend.
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    Oct 29, 2013, 09:09 AM
    He says you won't ever get back together so why would you wait? Move on and stop all contact with him. That will help you get over him. Don't become his option. It's over.
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    Oct 29, 2013, 10:06 AM
    What are you two, in middle school? Drama and more drama. Yuck! That is no way to have a relationship.

    "but I know it hurt him more then anything." That's doubtful. To middle schoolers your football team losing would mean more. Dropping your phone too. Etc.
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    Oct 29, 2013, 08:20 PM
    Leave him alone. You both need space to get your emotions under control and your lives together. Better yourself for YOU and no one else.

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