[lonelia]

Hello well I want to know how could I know if I have stds ! I had sex for the first time with my ex last year and we used protection I asked him first if he didn't have any disease he was sure he didn't and we were younger now I have a boyfriend, and we already have relationships and sex but we want to be safe ! We started noticing that my vagina has been changing like getting bigger the hole I guess but isn't that because we have sex a lot or often? Because I don't have any problems with it either way he thinks my ex had stds but if he did it was last year everything wouldn't be normal for me now right? I'm really worry about this since actually when I pee sometimes it hurts me a little but just sometimes I've been checking about stds and I saw many photos my vagina doesn't look any like that but its just big hole I guess? Like stretched I'm just really worry hope you answer thanks

[CravenMorhead]

A vagina is like a snowflake. They're all different. Most of the STD pictures you find on the internet is meant to show specific pathology. This is usually limited to lesions, warts, or discharge, but not actual anatomy. More on that later, but to address the STD question.

The only way to know if you have an STD, or STI as they're calling it these days, is to get tested. You can trust the word of your Ex, which isn't out of the question because I can assume that he was mostly trustworthy when you let him plunder your booty, but that could also be trouble because he could have been hiding an infection or he didn't even know that he was infected. Which brings up the next point. There are several STIs where you can be an infected carrier and not actually show symptoms.

The other fact you have running in your favour is that you used condoms. Which cuts down the chance of infection significantly but not completely. Given all the factors I would be optimistic of the possibility of you being clean, but I can't say that for sure. Only a STI screen can say for certain.

There is also the veiled jealously of your current boyfriend that is concerned. Specifically that he's sure your ex has an STI that he gave to you. Most of this has been initiated, from what I gathered from your post, by him because of the look of your lady bits. Which nicely brings us to said lady bits.

You're normal. Your vulva and labia will change as you progress through life. It doesn't change because you're having a lot of sex. The outward appearance could change if you have an STI but for the most part it is what it is. Don't let anyone tell you that it isn't right or beautiful.

In conclusion, get tested because that's the only way to know for sure and there's nothing wrong with your vulva/labia.

[Fr_Chuck]

The boy does not normally know if they have many, and most boys also lie, even if they do. If they say YES, they don't get the sex. So what do you think he would say.

It does not get "bigger" sounds like some jerk of a boyfriend, but that is an entire relationship issue. Yes you could, but new boyfriend may be the one, to have it, and wants to find a way to blame you. ** another trick many boys do.

So be safe, no sex until you get tested,