[NanRD]

Hi
My ex boyfriend broke up with me last August, I was devastated he just said he fell out of love for me and that it happens. I love him so much and we got on like a house on fire when we were together, we were together about two years and I loved every minute of it. He's not going out with anyone yet and every time we're in a pub together I always catch him looking at me, how can you love somebody for two years and then have no feelings at all towards them, I am lost without him and still love him. I just can't figure it out how things changed so quickly. Are there any men out there who acted like this and can you explain why, and by the way I didn't imagine it he was mad about me too. Even when men are the ones to end the relationship do they ever regret it and do they ever think about the woman?

[manimuth]

Nan,
I am so sorry for your hurt. I can understand your feeling of surprise and devastation. But, you are spending your precious time and energy, in your life, wondering and wishing for something that is completely out of your control. He has made a decision, Nan, and unfortunately, he has left. It's OK that you hurt because you still love him and you are wondering what went wrong but I am worried that you haven't been able to make progress after 7 months. It may be because you still see him. Do you still talk to him?

It may be possible that you will never completely get over him but it is important for your own mental and emotional health that you start moving on. It's OK if the pain and confusion comes back when you run into him but remind yourself that he has made a decision to move on without you and that you must push forward through the hurt.

How have you been spending your time after he left? Find comfort in your friends, distract yourself with hobbies (the gym is highly recommended on this site), and feel free to have a cry once in a while. But, always make sure that you are not wasting your precious life waiting on someone else but that you are living healthy and productive.

I am sorry I didn't have all the answers to the questions you asked in your post. Good luck.

[talaniman]

Your still in shock as what was thought out by him was very sudden to you. Please listen to what manimuth has written as it is good advice. Good Luck.