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Hakim1993 · Oct 4, 2013, 11:02 AM

Hello everyone! I really have a problem and I want help from you guys. I have a girlfriend and we have been in relationship around 2 years without doing sex. Before I was asking for it and she told me that to keep waiting till she is ready with it because she is a VIRGIN and I'm sure for it.

Then I waited for her till now but she seems to be not feel anything for it but in another side we done everything oral sex, kissing, and other things in my room without any clothes but when I saw her to be ready to have sex she says that she doesn't want it anymore and told me to forget about it, and I beg for along time but without anything. I get instead of it she starts to get fed up with me somehow but I still love her a lot.

So does she still love me or she is in love with someone else?? I need help guys because I feel pain and if its good to break up with her just advise me instead of continuing to hurt myself.

Thank you.

odinn7 · Oct 4, 2013, 11:11 AM

There is no way for us to know if she still loves you but I would say that based on what you wrote, I think she got disgusted with you for pressuring her into having sex even though she told you she wanted to save it until she was ready.

talaniman · Oct 4, 2013, 12:04 PM

If all you want is sex, go get someone who is ready to give it to you.

Hakim1993 · Oct 5, 2013, 05:32 AM

Thank you very much! what can I do to make her to be like before?because now she text me many times per day but there's something seems to be not all right,I mean she start to change everything slowly!I am ready to do not asking for sex again,all I want is her to back again like before because as me,I think its not too late to change her but I don't how to change her minds!I need your help.thank you

Jake2008 · Oct 5, 2013, 05:51 AM

I hate to break it to you, but the two of you have been having sex, and it was with her consent if she chose to be in your room with her clothes off engaging in sexual activity with you.

You can't be a little bit sexually active anymore than you can be a little bit pregnant.

That she draws the line at intercourse, however, is her choice, and now it seems she's drawn the line at all sexual activity, also her choice.

She may regret having sex at all, and has decided that will no longer be a part of the relationship. Also her choice.

If and when she ever decides to resume sexual activity with you, you may find that history will repeat itself, and sometimes she will be okay with it, and sometimes not. Also her choice.

And the relationship is now different. If you persist in pushing the sexual needs you have/want, with her, she'll likely give up on the relationship itself.

So, you have to accept what she has decided, or find someone else. There is no grey area here.

talaniman · Oct 5, 2013, 06:36 AM

You are texting, so ask for a date, and do not pressure for sex, like you say you are ready to do. Don't expect things to go back to the way it was, too much has happened. Move slowly forward, and pay attention as you talk and LISTEN.

One step at a time. Best foot forward. See what happens.