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    Sep 15, 2013, 03:27 PM
    Lied about my age.
    I lied about my age to my boyfriend when I first met him and now its been 3 months and I still can't tell him. I don't want to lose him what should I do!!
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    Sep 15, 2013, 03:29 PM
    How old is he and how old are you? I am wondering why you lied? I'm guessing it is a significant age difference.
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    Sep 15, 2013, 03:33 PM
    I'm 15 and he is 17 when I first met him I did not think we were going to go out but I wanted to impress him so I lied and said I'm 16 and now his family and everyone think I'm 16
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    Sep 15, 2013, 03:37 PM
    When is your 16th birthday? You need to tell him soon. Tell him that you say your 16 because you like how it feels but you had not been thinking of what if... we start going out together, then when you got together you couldn't figure out a way of telling him since you were worried how he would take it. Be honest, the longer you put it off the worse its going to get.
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    Sep 15, 2013, 03:42 PM
    15th of may, I'm scared I will lose him and what do I say to his family because they all think I'm 16 to
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    Sep 15, 2013, 03:53 PM
    Maybe you should start by saying you are worried that you will end up broke up and then tell him why and you understand, but you really would hope that things will work out that maybe you can get back together at 16.
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    Sep 15, 2013, 03:56 PM
    The thing about my boyfriend though is he get angry easly and would not understand why I lied :(
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    Sep 15, 2013, 04:00 PM
    Nobody likes to be lied to but he will be even madder when the truth comes out and its not from you. Take your chances and tell the truth.
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    Sep 15, 2013, 04:00 PM
    There are consequences, looks like you may learn consequences unless he is understanding and agrees to figure a solution to keep together. Its up to him.
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    Sep 15, 2013, 04:03 PM
    I don't know how to tell him please help
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    Sep 15, 2013, 04:07 PM
    I've tried giving you suggestions and as Talaniman said you better do it before someone else lets it slip. You don't want to wait until someone says something like 'Your 16th birthday is in May, I bet you can't wait'.
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    Sep 15, 2013, 04:14 PM
    He told me that I got his heart so don't break it but if I tell him I don't know if it would or not
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    Sep 15, 2013, 04:16 PM
    Tell him that you never ever intend to break his heart and he has your heart but you told one lie that you are worried will upset him more than you can bear.
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    Sep 15, 2013, 04:19 PM
    I just asked him if he would ever break up with me and he said only if I cheat of lie so what should I do
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    Sep 15, 2013, 04:31 PM
    Tell him you have to correct something you told him before you got together because it is eating away at you and you can't live with it bothering you any more.
    *correct something you told him before you got together* assuming you have not been mentioning your age since the time you got together.
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    Sep 15, 2013, 04:39 PM
    I don't want to lose him and I know I will if I tell him
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    Sep 15, 2013, 04:42 PM
    And where do you think your lying will get you? Come on I doubt anyone tells you to keep up this lie.
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    Sep 15, 2013, 04:44 PM
    So you don't tell him, then your birthday is coming up. Then he finds out by someone mentioning your birthday. Then he remembers your
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    I just asked him if he would ever break up with me and he said only if I cheat of lie so what should I do
    conversation and thinks/gets angry why didn't you tell me back then. Then he is MORE angry that you left it go soooo long.
    Then he definitely breaks up with you, by then you are even more hurt because you have that much more time and 'love' invested in him.
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    Sep 15, 2013, 04:57 PM
    No one else knows and I want to tell him but I just can't
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    Sep 15, 2013, 04:58 PM
    Its your decision but you will have to live with it now or later.

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