[afsharash]

Asak I need real help as my marriage is breaking.my husband doesn't trust me,evetytime he takes my one yr old daughter with his friend who is a girl,but doesn't take me so one day out od frustration I told him if you can go then I am also going out with a guy but really I don't have anyone now he is saying I have some relationship,I am so hurt,I apologoze him and explained him so many times that my intention was not bad I don't have anyone in my life,please help me what shd I do

[joypulv]

It sounds strange that he was going out with your child and a woman friend - why, do you know? How often?
If he can't understand your hurt and frustration, and now mistrusts you because you tried to make him feel how you feel, then he is just not being a good and understanding husband.
Were you able to tell him that it wasn't because you suspected him of having an affair, but because you were left home alone and lonely?
It sounds like he thinks he can do whatever he wants and you will give in in order to keep the marriage. And now he has control over you because you are so apologetic. I wouldn't be. I would tell him that you are tired of being sorry, and that he has no right to a double standard.
If you decide to do that (without fear), please let us know what happens.

[Homegirl 50]

How long have you been married and why is he taking your child out with another woman? You need to stand up to him. Tell him you have done nothing to be sorry for and you will not be controlled. He needs to show you the same respect he seems to want.

[N0help4u]

Is he telling you that he is taking this girl out or is he using taking the baby out as an excuse to get out and you aren't suppose to know he is taking this girl too?
He is putting you on a guilt trip and expecting you to accept his double standard that it is okay for him to have female friends. You are to trust him yet he will hold it against you for even talking to another guy. As Homegirl said you need to stand up to him and tell him he has a double standard that he can run around with a girl but he expects you to bend over backwards for him because you basically threatened to talk to another guy.
My boyfriend tries this with me and I tell him what's good for the goose is good for the gander. Although, I too, really don't have anybody that I could talk to if I did threaten to talk with another guy. You can sit back and let him go, you can stand up for yourself, or you can weigh your options of leaving him. Right now I am choosing to walk down the hill and spend time by myself but ONLY whenever he decides he is going to take off without me because I really don't have any proof that he is doing anything other than giving someone a ride to the store.