[Anonymous338]

My best girl friend and myself likes the same boy which so happens to be my best guy friend. He and I are now friends with benefits but are moving slowly, he use to say that he likes my best girl friend and now is not that sure and thinks he might have a liking for me but whenever I ask him who he likes he responds with "I don't know." I'm not exactly sure if I'm doing the right thing here? She doesn't know of our secret benefits and believes I don't like him. She really likes him but so do I, she hasn't been bothered to make any moves on him so I have. Is that wrong? Putting myself before my best friend without her knowing? I need help? I hope this makes sense.

[Alty]

Keeping secrets from your friend is a tricky thing to do. Chances are that sooner or later she's going to find out.

Having said that, you like him, she likes him, he's using you for sex, you're letting him use you for sex. Friends with benefits is when both people simply want sex, not a relationship. So you're lying to yourself too. If he wanted to be in a relationship with you he has the perfect opportunity to do so. He must know that you're at least attracted to him. But whenever you ask, he tells you he doesn't know how he feels.

He doesn't want to lose his booty call. But, he's likely never going to end up dating you.

[N0help4u]

''I don't know'' sounds like he wants to leave his options open and/or he is only using you for the sex. You figure too, she doesn't know about you, so can you be sure you know about them? He sounds like he's just raking in all that he can get without any commitments.

[ScottGem]

How old are you all?

[Cat1864]

From your previous thread: "I'm a 13 year old girl." https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/mental...nd-761216.html

Stop playing adult games before you end up with very adult consequences such as pregnancy. I really do not want your next thread to be asking about a missed period.

Be honest with your friend. You both like the same boy. She needs to know that you have feelings for him too. You might also find out that Mr. Perfect also has 'secret benefits' with her and she hasn't been completely honest with you.

I think you need to focus on getting help for other issues (other thread) and leave boys and relationship games for later after you are more emotionally stable.

[ScottGem]

13?? As Cat said, you are a child. Did you even understand what friends with benefits meant? Have you discussed dating with your parents?

Do you understand what is likely to happen here. Do you not think this boy won't be bragging to his friends? So at 13 you will have a rep that you put out. Now you will not know if any boy who pays attention to you does so because they like you or because they want to get in your pants.

As Cat said, you are playing adult games that you are not prepared for. You need a lot of growing up before you can truly consider playing such games.

Based on this and your other thread, you have self esteem issues. I suggest you talk to your parents about seeing a therapist.

[talaniman]

Yes its wrong to not tell your parents what you are going through, and its wrong to not tell your best friend what you are doing behind her back.

That's not honest or a best friend.

[Alty]

I should have checked previous threads before answering your question. You're 13 and having sex? Why? You're playing a very dangerous game, and you will lose, either way, in the end.

Please stop trying to be an adult. At 13 you can't handle the consequences of your actions.

[stilli98]

I say stop being a guys booty call. He just wants you for sex and no friendship is worth losing of some guy. Chances are he likes your best friend more and might never date you. Tell your best friend the truth and get a guy that truly deserves you.
Ever heard the saying,
Sisters Before Misters
Chicks Before s

[Fr_Chuck]

At 13, you do not have sex with anyone.

How old is this boy ?

But I don't know, means he will sleep with her, when he gets a chance.
He wants it quiet most likely since it is illegal to have sex with a 13 year old.

Best friend should know, that you are having sex with boy she likes.