[xo_sandra]

I want my girlfriend of 2 years back and I don't know if there's still time. It was just last night that we broke up but I can't stop thinking about her. I really want to call her and let her know what's up but I am so scared she might reject me because when I broke up with her she didn't even say anything she just said she was speechless. What do I do? What do I say? Or should I wait?

[joypulv]

Here's the deal:
1. It was probably too late the minute the words came out of your mouth. However, we have no idea what the odds are that she'll take you back. Just the fact that you think we strangers might know tells me that you are very young and...
2. You can beg her to come back, sure, and guess what? You'll fight again. And again. And again...

First tell us what you said when you broke up with her.
Plan later to go to her door. Ask her to go for a walk and talk. Ask if you can apologize. Ask if the two of you can have better heart to heart talks, every day, until you really understand what each other needs and what hurts. If she says no, GO AWAY. You lost her.

[xo_sandra]

Thanks this was very helpful !

[Homegirl 50]

Why did you break up with her? Has the situation changed? You need to consider that first. Then talk to her. She may or may not take you back depending on how you broke up with her.

[N0help4u]

You just replied on another post that you had broken up with your boyfriend but you are back together now.

[joypulv]

Why are you lying? In this post you are a boy who broke up with a girl. In another post you are a girl who did the breaking up.
This is your other self talking, as nohelp mentioned:

"...I stayed with my boyfriend and it wasn't to long before he started hitting me and embarrsing me in front of my friends. he didn't want me going anywhere and always wanted me to be with him.now that I finally got rid of him and we finally had a conversation about the old us he admitted that he was very insecure because I was so beautiful and he was stressing over his own problems and didn't know how to handle his self when I was away from him."

[xo_sandra]

"now that I finally got rid of him and we finally had a conversation "
Exactly I go with her now me and him was going out along time ago, please don't come at me al offensive !

[joypulv]

But you aren't making any sense. You don't even know if you are a boy or girl.

[N0help4u]

I think OP knows if they are a boy or a girl, we don't know if they are a boy or a girl that is bi sexual I guess. It still didn't add up since they said they got back with boyfriend but want their girlfriend back.

[Cat1864]

I think we have established that Sandra dates females and males. This thread is about her girlfriend and their break-up. The post was about an old relationship that is over (Sandra, you may want to clarify your advice for the op in the other thread. What are you recommending and why?)

Back to the topic at hand. Joy and Homegirl's posts had good advice for you.

I will add that you may need to give her some time to calm down and do not expect the relationship to be the same if she does agree to stay with you. Let her know you are willing to talk when she is ready to contact you. A break-up no matter how long or short affects the relationship and can cause trust issues.

Is this the only time either of you have broken off the relationship? If there is a history of break-ups and/or trust issues, you may want to think about why you broke up with her this time and be honest with yourself. Was this a healthy relationship or has it been having problems for awhile?

[joypulv]

OK, I thought the boyfriend and girlfriend were at the same time. She cleared that up/

[xo_sandra]

Thank you cat , and for the record joy and homegirl , I am bisexual I'm currently single now since I broke up with my girlfriend and the boyfriend that I mentioned was back in 08 we were dating for 3 years and we have a two year old son together .