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james101 · Aug 13, 2013, 04:24 AM

She keep telling me about it, and I don't know why. I've told her many times I don't want to hear it.

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joypulv · Aug 13, 2013, 04:27 AM

Why are you talking with your ex?
Why are you continuing to listen to her sex life? Hang up, walk away.
Do you know the expression 'rubbing salt in your own wounds?'

N0help4u · Aug 13, 2013, 04:39 AM

All you have to do is hit a button *click or *delete or walk away. She's rubbing it in that she moved on and left you

james101 · Aug 13, 2013, 04:42 AM

Originally Posted by joypulv

Why are you talking with your ex?
Why are you continuing to listen to her sex life? Hang up, walk away.
Do you know the expression 'rubbing salt in your own wounds?'

Well we have been pretty close again like best friends.. well were afte me telling her for the last time I didn't want to here it she said she didn't want to friends any more but you before that we were close having regular goofy convos and such

joypulv · Aug 13, 2013, 07:03 AM

Sounds like she enjoyed torturing you, and when you finally put a stop to it, she ditched you as a 'friend.' I say friend in quotes because you were just a toy. Consider yourself lucky that she is gone. It hurts for a while but why keep hurting over and over in little ways? Hurt once and be done.

Fr_Chuck · Aug 13, 2013, 08:40 AM

To control you some, make you miserable.

The real issue is why are you even talking to them. Ex's are ex's for a reason. Stop talking and stop listening

Homegirl 50 · Aug 13, 2013, 12:03 PM

She does it because you allow it.

james101 · Aug 13, 2013, 06:03 PM

Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

to control you some, make you miserable.

The real issue is why are you even talking to them. Ex's are ex's for a reason. stop talking and stop listening

Quit saying that... you can be friends with ex's u know...

Enigma1999 · Aug 13, 2013, 06:07 PM

If she was such a great friend, like ”best friends” then she would respect your wishes.

Friends don't make friends feel uncomfortable.

N0help4u · Aug 13, 2013, 06:10 PM

You can be friends but she keeps rubbing it in...
That makes you a glutton for punishment when you keep going back for more.
Your choice

Cat1864 · Aug 13, 2013, 06:27 PM

Originally Posted by james101

quit saying that...you can be friends with ex's u know...

Some people can be friends with their exes. At this point, you and she cannot be friends.

From the following quote, I don't think she wants to be friends. She wants play games and as long as you allowed it she wanted to keep you close. It was amusing to her. Think of a cat playing with a mouse.

Originally Posted by james101

well we have been pretty close again like best friends..well were afte me telling her for the last time i didnt wanna here it she said she didnt wanna friends any more but ya before that we were close having regular goofy convos and such

Time for a life lesson. You cannot go back to the way things were. You are not the same people you were before you dated. Your relationship is not and cannot be the same as it was.

Take some time to learn about yourself. Who you are now. Don't stay caught up in the past. Encourage yourself to move forward.

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talaniman · Aug 13, 2013, 06:33 PM

Poor guy, you are her friend and that's what happens with exes when you stay friend and keep talking. You are like her bet girlfriend, or she loves to get you upset. Either way leave her alone and quit trying this friend thing for a while. Friends can talk about ANYTHING, and not be upset.

james101 · Aug 13, 2013, 08:47 PM

Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

She does it because you allow it.

No I don't I've told her many times to stop

Enigma1999 · Aug 13, 2013, 08:50 PM

Originally Posted by james101

no i dnt ive told her many times to stop

But she doesn't.

When are you going to draw the line in the sand?

Homegirl 50 · Aug 14, 2013, 08:03 AM

Originally Posted by james101

no i dnt ive told her many times to stop

If you have had to tell her many times, she has had many opportunities.
Stop talking to her.

james101 · Aug 16, 2013, 03:52 AM

My ex isn't to fond of me right now but its for no reason and I did nothing but she doesn't want much to do with me and she deleted me off Facebook and we kind of had a fight cause she was being rude to me for no reason and well the last thing I said to her(was being honest and wasn't rude about it) I told her she was being selfish and has some growing up to do... but will she possibly ever talk to me again if I message her in like a month from now? I really miss her and I know she's had problems in her past so that could be the reason or part of the reason she was being the way she was and broke up with me cause she's been hurt a lot.

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Oliver2011 · Aug 16, 2013, 05:17 AM

It sounds like there is more to this story than you are telling or that you know. Is there someone else? She is moving her life forward and that doesn't include you for whatever reason. You might want to consider doing the same. If you do that the only way for you to make a clean break is no contact. We have all been through this and we all survive.

N0help4u · Aug 16, 2013, 05:23 AM

She for whatever reasons doesn't want you in her life any more. By pushing the issue trying to talk to her you will only be giving her more reason why she ditched you.

Jake2008 · Aug 16, 2013, 06:47 AM

Maybe it was the icing on the cake.

More likely the relationship was heading toward ending, and one argument as you've stated, doesn't end a relationship. Nor does thinking you've done nothing wrong, which doesn't sound like you have a lot of insight.

So with you being clueless about why she would possibly break up with you, and wondering if she'll come back, seems a dead end street.

What good would waiting do.

james101 · Aug 16, 2013, 02:16 PM

Originally Posted by Oliver2011

It sounds like there is more to this story than you are telling or that you know. Is there someone else? She is moving her life forward and that doesn't include you for whatever reason. You might want to consider doing the same. If you do that the only way for you to make a clean break is no contact. We have all been through this and we all survive.

I didn't do anything wrong though I know that for a 100% fact

Originally Posted by Jake2008

Maybe it was the icing on the cake.

More likely the relationship was heading toward ending, and one argument as you've stated, doesn't end a relationship. Nor does thinking you've done nothing wrong, which doesn't sound like you have a lot of insight.

So with you being clueless about why she would possibly break up with you, and wondering if she'll come back, seems a dead end street.

What good would waiting do.

I know I've done nothing wrong

Originally Posted by N0help4u

She for whatever reasons doesnt want you in her life any more. By pushing the issue trying to talk to her you will only be giving her more reason why she ditched you.

No I wouldn't