[tsarsrule]

Basically we work together and I've been abit difficult with him, he hasn't once swore at me or anything, but we've been dating for 5 months nearly and in secret, he's a bit girly that I actually thought he was gay at first and a lot of other people did too, but he's very flirty in his nature, so I hear him flirt with customers etc, one of the colleagues told me he took a girls number and text her etc, instead of asking him about it I got angry and accused him of being a cheat after one thing, he explained to me what happened and in fact it wasn't true that he text her, its just he doesn't like people thinking he's gay so he flirts a lot but he can't tell anyone about me obviously as were dating in secret so people don't give us hassle, (were not allowed to date at work) another thing I found out about him is that I'm his first girlfriend, he's 28 and I'm 21, I been through a lot with guys so I had trust issues, which I explained to him and he understood, but I feel awful now, I think he wanted to to take a break, should I give him space and not text him anymore? How should I explain to him that I want to distance myself from him just to give him a breather? I don't want him to forget me though, there's also a lot of new girls that started with our company , very pretty and funny girls with no emotional baggage like me, I see him talk with them, laugh with them, it hurts me, what should I do, I already been through this bad breakup and I'm scared to go through that again, especially with this guy as I work with him and I think for once I actually loved a person, I go him presents to say sorry and he was happy but my instinct is that I lost him, he's sick of my texts and doesn't reply either, I feel scared to lose him and don't want him to hate me but he already does

[JudyKayTee]

I don't know that he hates you; I don't know that he is or isn't gay; all I do know is that you are not allowed to date fellow employees and your job is on the line.

Maybe he's tired of being hounded. Maybe he's just a low down dog who takes advantage of women.

I'd leave him alone, I definitely would not buy him presents (which makes you look and sound desperate), I would not keep explaining anything to him - see what he does if you don't react to him.