[Cupwanter]

I am 12 and a half, and I still wear a training bra. Almost all my friends wear a cup bra and my training bras are too tight and I don't feel very comfortable with them. I wear sports bra sometimes but they are itchy too. I need a cup bra but I am too shy to tell my mom.

How to tell my mom I need a cup bra?

[Fr_Chuck]

Why, All women have breasts and wear bra's, bra's are on public display at stores,

She had to get her first bra. If you are really ready, it will or should be obvious by looking, she may just not know.

You just talk to her, there will be much more personal things you will talk to her about as you mature, you need to be able to tell mom anything

[Cupwanter]

I can't talk to her easily but is it a problem if I ask her this question to the store?

[Fr_Chuck]

It is just a piece of clothing, do you have trouble telling her your pants are too tight, or your shirts do not fit and you need a larger size ?

[Cupwanter]

It is not a problem about pants or shirts but bras are different.and I think my mom won't understand me but thanks for your answer.

[Cat1864]

Just let your mother know that your current bras are not fitting correctly. Since bras are worn under other clothing it is easy for a parent to not notice when their daughter needs a new one.

Treat the subject of bras like you would shoes. You are growing and, whether you need a bra with cups or not, you may be needing one with a larger band and/or longer shoulder straps.

Be honest that you would like one with cups, but be prepared to accept a bra that fits even if it isn't what your friends are wearing.

Good luck.

[Cupwanter]

Just let your mother know that your current bras are not fitting correctly. Since bras are worn under other clothing it is easy for a parent to not notice when their daughter needs a new one.

Treat the subject of bras like you would shoes. You are
growing and, whether you need a bra with cups or not, you may be needing one with a larger band and/or longer shoulder straps.


Be honest that you would like one with cups, but be prepared to accept a bra that fits even if it isn't what your friends are wearing.

Good luck.

Thank you but do you think it is proper to tell her when we go to a store where there are sold too many things such as toys,clothes,bras etc.I come from europe and I kinde use another expresion for bras with my mom so I can't be too emberrased.But I hope sh will understand I need a bra with cups cause she thinks I don't have a lot of breast.I don't wear even a swimwear with cups.but thanks for your comment.

[N0help4u]

My mom was the same way she made me uncomfortable about what she had raised me to think of as adult things. From deodorant, to bras, to boyfriends. Anyway, just tell her you need to go shopping, or when in store, because its getting too tight on you. Then when she starts helping you pick out training bras tell her they just don't feel right and pick up one that you think is more appropriate that is around your size (not some 36 size) and say you think this style might be more comfortable

[Cupwanter]

Thank you nohelp4you.I have thought about this and after some days I think I will go shopping with my mum.I have developed my breasts and I think I am a medium size.I hope she will buy me cup bras.

[Katiept]

You should talk to her about how you feel about your sport bras and show her the marks that are left after you take your bra off if she says no talk to your grandma or aunt tell them they should be able to say yes

[Cupwanter]

You should talk to her about how you feel about your sport bras and and show her the marks that are left after you take your bra off if she says no talk to your grandma or aunt tell them they should be able to say yes

Okay but is it a problem if I just ask her like hey mom can you buy me some bras in another model ? When we are in a store that sells bras.I am 36B and I need a cup bra

[N0help4u]

You are THAT big and still in a training bra?
Or are you talking about the cupless bras that really aren't training bras?
At any rate, if you are having any problems with your bras yes you need to tell your mom that the style you wear isn't working for you and go pick out what you feel you will be more comfortable with. I know Wal Mart has some reasonably priced bras that would cost $20. In any other store.

[Cupwanter]

Do you think I can ask her to the store so I cen feel a little less shy?

[N0help4u]

Yes that is what I was saying you should ask her to go to the store with you or whenever you go with her again when she is going. Get her in the store.

[Cupwanter]

Okay my bra size is 32 B cause I made an mistake with my writing.sorry

[N0help4u]

K then you look for the style you are thinking and pick up a couple before your mom has a chance to start picking them out for you. Then tell her those ones she is picking are not comfortable,

[Wondergirl]

Okay my bra size is 32 B cause i made an mistake with my writing.sorry

How do you know you are that size?

[N0help4u]

I guess her training bra is that size. She may need a bigger size and that could be one of her problems,

[Cupwanter]

I measured myself and I am that size.and I think and I hope I will buy some cup bras on Saturday.

[N0help4u]

I hope so too. I know how you feel. Been there many many years ago