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peaceandlovex3 · Mar 24, 2007, 11:48 PM

OK so let me fill you in and then can you PLEASE give me some help!

My last period was February 28. I had unprotected sex on march 15 and 16. I've checked a lot of sites that say that was during my "fertile ovulation" time. So what I want to know is it possible that I may be pregnant? My period is not due until the 27th but it would be really great to have some help now!

Symptoms:
I tire easily.
I'm going to pee a lot more than often[don't know if it's a mind trick or what]
I feel sick off and on, but not too much.
Sometimes I have the urge to eat crazily, other times food makes me sick.
My breasts are noticeably sore and oddly, my nipples are very sensitive!
And whether its just me or being pregnant, I've gained a few pounds recently.

I'm just freaking out and I would really love to hear from anybody who has an opinion or if they experienced the same things during pregnancy.

Also, I have slight cramps, but not like my period.

MEGAN<3

peaceandlovex3 · Mar 25, 2007, 12:12 AM

I know people are looking at this so will somebody PLEASE give me an answer? :confused:

beautifulshirebabe · Mar 25, 2007, 01:24 AM

Dear megan
Last year my friend who is in year 9 had unprotected sex and didn't take the morning after pill the next day.
She started experiencing the symptoms you had the next week and finally took a pregnancy test and it turned out positive.She did something about it and managed to terminate the pregnancy.
I would urge you to take a pregnancy test very soon,and if it does turn out positive do something about it quickly, you will probably have to tell your parents , and yes I can see that they would get angry and upset , but it will help you in the end.

peaceandlovex3 · Mar 25, 2007, 07:14 AM

Well I'm definitely not having an abortion! - I think its so wrong. - if it turns out that I'm pregnant, I'm keeping my baby. Anybody else know of any help or advice??

J_9 · Mar 25, 2007, 07:33 AM

Hun, I would not advocate abortion either. But are you ready for the DEMANDS a child can bring? Can you afford the clothes, diapers, formula, doctor visits, etc? How will you be able to afford all of this and more?

Physically your body is still changing too, it is not ready to carry a baby, this is why many babies of teen moms are usually premature and of low birth weight and may have many permanent developmental delays.

You may want to consider adoption. There are many people out there who cannot have children who can give your baby a life it deserves with money to afford these things, both parents in the home, etc.

If it were not for adoption, I would not have a husband, sister-in-law and brother-in-law. My in-laws adopted 3 children from girls in situations very similar to yours. They were wealthy and gave these 3 children everything that they would not have had if they stayed with their teenage biological mothers. Please consider adoption if you are pregnant.

peaceandlovex3 · Mar 25, 2007, 07:56 AM

Yes. I realize this is going to be a long hard ride. But I just don't think I can really live with myself if I give up SOMEBODY that is literally part of me! As un-ideal as it may be, I have my mom, and my boyfriends parents. And as soon as I can I'll try and balance a job and school. I'm still in the very early stages of this and am not even posotive that I am pregnant yet. I think I can't do a lot of this thinking until it is actually REAL and permanent. Thank you so much for answering me though. I really need all the view points I can get.

TheSavage · Mar 25, 2007, 08:02 AM

Young lady -- if you get lucky and are not pregnant, I really hope you will take this lesson to heart and use protection.-- may the deity you follow be with you.-- Savage

JoeCanada76 · Mar 25, 2007, 08:09 AM

First of all you need to wait. There is no way of finding out if you are pregnant or not yet. Some of the symptoms you are having could be symptoms of the period coming as well. As a girl matures the body changes and her period changes from time to time as well.

As far as having unprotected sex and around your fertile time does not guarantee that you are pregnant, but the possibility is always always there.

There are some people who even try to become pregnant but can not for up to a good year.

What you need to do is wait for your period to be due. If you get your period, I would wait a few days and take a pregnancy test just to be on the safe side. Usual recommendation is that you wait at least 3 or 4 days after your period is due to take the test. Make sure you take the test first thing in the morning with your first pee.

As far as adoption, PLEASE DO NOT RULE OUT ADOPTION IF YOU ARE PREGNANT.

There are different options for adoption even open adoption which would give you the right to see the baby and be part of the babies life even though in the care of other parents.

Best of luck whatever happens. Hopefully this is a learning lesson to you to always use protection.

Joe

mcaklavin · Mar 25, 2007, 08:16 AM

The symptoms you are experiencing could be early pregnancy or signs of an approaching period. Unfortunately, you're going to have a wait. Our family is praying for you and think your decision to have the baby if you are pregnant is a very brave and unselfish one. No baby is ever a mistake, and every child has a purpose.

louie1 · Mar 25, 2007, 09:14 AM

Do the test - then deal with all the questions - your symptoms could just be there because you notice them, do not stress out and do not wait - deal with the truth not what might be a lot of time and energy can be wasted on maybe and if you are pregnant you are going to need every ounce of strength you have. Get to the shop!!

ScottGem · Mar 25, 2007, 10:06 AM

I may be reading between the lines here, but I have the feeling you want to be pregnant. I have feeling that you researched your fertile period BEFORE you had unprotected sex.

If that's the case and it turns out you aren't pregnant, then I hope you get some counseling as to why you would want to do this to yourself and a child. You ARE too young to have a child. I'm not going to go into all the reasons this is a big mistake. There are other threads here that more than adequately make that case.

If you were lucky enough (and I do mean that) to avoid getting pregnant, I really hope you rexamine what you are doing with your life.

Megg · Mar 25, 2007, 10:12 AM

If you turn out pregnant, if you don't want an abortion, have an adoption. I'm 21 and being pregnant is a possibility for me. But I'm engadged so it's not tooo much of an issue. Money is tight, so personally I would give it up for adoption. I think abortion is wrong as well. It all depend's on what you think. You may be too young, but if your pregnant your pregnant. That make's you grow up real fast. Next time, wait to have unprotected sex until your with someone who your practically married to. Meaning that you both know your sticking together. Have a bit of money to, lol. Good luck.

peaceandlovex3 · Mar 25, 2007, 04:26 PM

OK. So screw all of you who think I did this on purpose! There are a lot of sites I've come across when trying to find pregnancy symptoms and what other people think that ask you to put in your last period and what not to determine the likelihood of pregnancy. Before my "accident" I didn't even completely understand how ovulation worked. So screw you. If you want to actually HELP please do, if you want to be judgemental and sinical, don't bother answering.

ScottGem · Mar 25, 2007, 04:59 PM

First, I have every right to judge you. That's what we do here. People post their problems and we have to make a judgement on the info they give us. We then use that judgement to try and help them. If I read you wrong, I'm sorry, but your reaction indicates to me I didn't.

Other people had already given you good advice on what to do now. That's why I decided to give you advice for the future.

That fact that you didn't fully understand ovulation yet were willing to risk your life and that of a possible future life, is shameful. Its shameful to our education system that doesn't provide children with the info to protect themselves.

Nor did you have an "accident".

I sincerely hope you aren't pregnant, but if you are I would counsel you with advice on how to deal with it. But until we know, I'm going to give you advice on how to deal with the future.

peaceandlovex3 · Mar 25, 2007, 05:19 PM

Right you can tell from my reaction that you were right about what you think. But that's OK. Because I know the truth. And its pointless to argue with someone who definitely does not know me, or even understand my situation. So whatever, think what you want if it makes you feel better. But I'm not going to think twice about your so called "advice for the future". And just for the sake of saying it again, it really was an accident, whether you believe it or not. For all you know I could have been forced into sex.

sexiibabii · Mar 25, 2007, 05:25 PM

First of all no one should judge her.. she is here asking for advice not what you think about her or what she did or didn't do that's really wrong and if you have advice for her give it to her if not then don't bother I would not want this done to me I'm fourteen as well so seriously stop

JoeCanada76 · Mar 25, 2007, 05:42 PM

Originally Posted by Jesushelper76

First of all you need to wait. There is no way of finding out if you are pregnant or not yet. Some of the symptoms you are having could be symptoms of the period coming as well. As a girl matures the body changes and her period changes from time to time as well.

As far as having unprotected sex and around your fertile time does not guarantee that you are pregnant, but the possibility is always always there.

There are some people who even try to become pregnant but can not for up to a good year.

What you need to do is wait for your period to be due. If you get your period, I would wait a few days and take a pregnancy test just to be on the safe side. Usual recommendation is that you wait at least 3 or 4 days after your period is due to take the test. Make sure you take the test first thing in the morning with your first pee.

As far as adoption, PLEASE DO NOT RULE OUT ADOPTION IF YOU ARE PREGNANT.

There are different options for adoption even open adoption which would give you the right to see the baby and be part of the babies life even though in the care of other parents.

Best of luck whatever happens. Hopefully this is a learning lesson to you to always use protection.

Joe

I can not add anything to this advice, but I do not want it to be lost. So here it is again.

Fr_Chuck · Mar 25, 2007, 05:43 PM

She is 14 and having sex, someone needs to talk to her, since it is obvoius by these actions she is not thinking but living some lie or life style that is being sold to the children today.

She is still a child and in such needs to be talked to as a child.

And the boy who is having sex with a 14 year old child needs to be talked to seroiusly also.

sexiibabii · Mar 25, 2007, 05:47 PM

I'm pretty sure she did not intend on getting pregnant if she is and I understand how some adults might think she needs to be spoken to as a child but right now what she needs most is comfort and being able to know people are there for her if what she thinks is true I hate how adults forget what it is like to be a teenager

peaceandlovex3 · Mar 25, 2007, 05:48 PM

Thank you for those of you with the kind and helpful words.

Also, the guy I had sex with was also 14.

I don't know why we need to be talked to. That's how life is today. It may not be ideal, and may get me into situations like this. But its what happens.