[johnnyneedshelp]

I really really need some help here. I'm 28, have done most things people can only dream of, have had a good life, travelled and successful... and I'm ready to settle.

I went out with this girl (she was 23 at the time and I was 25. We went on dates a few years ago, probably 6 dates or so and then she disappeared off the planet. I had then found out that she was dating someone else and I never heard from her again till early last year when she wanted to apologies for hurting me. I made a joke of it all and said that we should go for a coffee (but deep down I was still a bit hurt but still massively attracted to her). One thing went to another and we then started going out and got heavily involved.

We've had our ups and downs, we broke up a few times but I know she's a beautiful girl inside and out. I know she's massively insecure of herself with few friends and little interests (fake boobs, fake hair, dyed hair, teeth, fake eye lashes). She wasn’t working when we dated, and she didn't like her most recent job as she felt it was beneath her. She doesn't really need to work as her parents are well off and they live in a £4mill + mansion! I don't! But even without all of this I’d still love her.

At times during the relationship she'd show great support to want to help me and other times she'd be hostile towards me. We both said to each other that we loved one another and we talked about the long-haul! Sex was good, she’s got a great figure and I’ve always fancied her. She was a bit bi polar like throughout the relationship and I was very distracted with the financial crap I had to take from a failing business and thieving business partner. I know I should’ve given her more support but I feel it’s far too late! There were a few moments that she was very harsh. There were little arguments throughout the relationship (pointless ones that I cannot remember). I took her to London for her birthday which cost me £500 (which I couldn’t afford!) and she threw a wobbly because I didn't ask her to marry her, didn’t like all of the fancy presents I had got her. She walked out and then came back to the hotel room. I was shocked and decided to leave her in London that same day (on her birthday!). We decided to sort out our differences and I promised her I would never break up with her again! Ever! She warned me the next time would be the last.

I broke up with my girlfriend 3 months ago and harshly via text saying that I needed to be single to focus, but I was thinking I thought I was going to go bankrupt! As I was having so many financial difficulties after being screwed over in business. I then wrote my car off in a bad crash and I called her at the scene (no answer) and then got a text the next day to ask if I were OK? I almost bloody died!!

Here’s some of the things that have happened since we broke up. I left it for a few weeks to sort my life out.
Had my car crash.
I found out that she had quit her job as she was being bullied.
We’ve had a text dialogue for some while
She stalked me out of my new job (I caught her out)
I begged for her back, texted her, told her that I’d change, even stupidly one night emailed her every home truth about my past including how many girls I’d slept with! Why? Well I answered every dark secret she had ever asked! I said it was my way to clean a slate to tell her that there are no secrets.
After that email she said some cruel things such as making a joke out of our sex life saying that for someone who had been with so many women I was rubbish in bed!! Never heard that from any girl! A friend said she did that to hurt me.
She sent me a photo of us a (5 weeks ago) week before an exhibition where there are tons of attractive women etc. I was running for my business saying "nice photo", a few texts later and we're meeting up for a drink for the first time in over 6 weeks. She then has to tell me that she’s been on holiday with friends, that she's shut down all emotions towards me, telling me that this guy has been chasing her (her best friends fella! ) and that she’s thought about working with her ex in Dubai! I asked her to come to a Rihanna concert with me and heard nothing then the next week she was asking me for advice about her job and whether she should set up her own business!? We started messaging one another and then nothing.
She did say that she needed some time to think things through. I had posted on my Facebook wall asking people to like the tattoo company working on my new ink and within 30 minutes I saw she had liked them "she said to me when we met up that she doesn't like tattoos!! Ironic?? 2 weeks before she’s seeing someone else?! I had drunkenly texted her after a night out in Brum and I apologized the next day as she was like "yeah you were in "x town", meaning that she had to stalk me on FB. I had to block her on Facebook in the end as I cannot stop stalking her! (We had stopped being friends with one another on there a few months ago), I feel this is partly down to her now saying that she's met someone else in spite.

I’m not interested in any other woman, I was going to ask her to marry me this year and help her with her confidence, and I feel confused about this whole scenario!! I’m struggling to move on if I have to. I've made a complete u turn in my life the past 3 months, swallowed my ego and pride and got a job amongst my businesses, sorted my finances out and really had my wakeup call! Lost tons of fat weight and hit the gym hard, I’m now setting up a children’s charity everything’s going that well. I know I’ve done all the wrong things you should be doing, texts, emails, calls, drunken messages, flowers at her work place etc. But I love her. I'm feeling extremely lost at the moment and its screwing up my head about it all and I’m in need of some help.

My family and friends say that she's insecure, playing mind games and is trying to hurt me by playing mind games, and I sent her a text the other night to say that I need her in my life and now she is saying this by text:

"I’ve started seeing someone else, it’s probably best that you do the same" x (with an x?) and then after a few more texts back and forth "please stop texting me" but ironically texts me back immediately in response to mine!

It has destroyed me knowing she may/or may not be seeing someone else. I sent her an email tonight a few days after the texts about her seeing someone. I basically said that

"I agree with what she said and I wished her good luck in her new relationship and said that I just wanted her to be happy, I also told her that I won’t contact her again"

I can’t its destroying me inside, especially when she’s now more than likely on a rebound!? Is she??

PLEASE HELP ME!

I’M A GOOD GUY & I WAS GOING TO ASK HER HAND IN MARRIAGE THIS YEAR!

[talaniman]

Take a year vacation from her guy and get the healing process started before lose your sanity over this rich insecure female that's turned your head inside out.

[Homegirl 50]

This girl is playing you like a fiddle. Why are you always apologizing to her?
Leave her alone, completely. There is way too much drama for this relationship to be any good or fun.
She is probably playing this new guy too.