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123chris456 · Jun 19, 2013, 05:36 AM

Hello: Recently me and my fiancé went on vacation together to the beach for a week and one morning he woke up on the wrong side of the bed. This is what happened. I was looking at my junk emails on my cell phone just for something to do while I gave my fiancé sometime to sleep in. Then I finally mentioned to my finance about the time, because he and I both like to get up early to look at the sunrise etc. He was mad when I woke him up because he zipped out of his driveway without looking for cars on either side and he roared down that road going about 80 in a 45 mph highway. I was scared for my life. Anyway, we had some fun at the beach during the day then he got drunk and got in a pissed off mood. I kept saying is it something I did and he said no. I know that he was awake anyway before I woke him because he said he saw me looking at my cell phone. Also, his daughter's wedding was the next day which we both attend on the beach as well and that went well. But is this a reason for him to have been this way because of his daughter's wedding? We are both in our 50s actually so shouldn't he be more mature than that?

Oliver2011 · Jun 19, 2013, 05:55 AM

Potentially his true colors are coming out.

How long have you known him before you said I will to the I do?

123chris456 · Jun 19, 2013, 06:56 AM

Originally Posted by Oliver2011

Potentially his true colors are coming out.

How long have you known him before you said I will to the I do?

I have been engaged to him about 6 months now,

123chris456 · Jun 19, 2013, 06:57 AM

Originally Posted by 123chris456

I have been engaged to him about 6 months now,

Oh also wanted to say about 4 months before the I do part

Oliver2011 · Jun 19, 2013, 07:16 AM

Well - maybe you should have a heart to heart with him in a non-threatening way. Obviously you don't want to see a repeat of that behavior. If he is having second thoughts about it all, then it is better to know now. Something triggered it. If you all are planning to say the I do's then you need to be able to communicate.

123chris456 · Jun 19, 2013, 07:20 AM

Originally Posted by Oliver2011

Well - maybe you should have a heart to heart with him in a non-threatening way. Obviously you don't want to see a repeat of that behavior. If he is having second thoughts about it all, then it is better to know now. Something triggered it. If you all are planning to say the I do's then you need to be able to communicate.

Thanks for your response, but just to add, I did talk to him about it and he mentioned again about seeing me looking at my cell phone. That's what triggered it. But I do not understand why. Have a good day.

odinn7 · Jun 19, 2013, 07:35 AM

Is this the same jerk as you posted about in your earlier questions? Why? WHY are you still dealing with this guy?

Oliver2011 · Jun 19, 2013, 07:42 AM

Originally Posted by 123chris456

Thanks for your response, but just to add, I did talk to him about it and he mentioned again about seeing me looking at my cell phone. That's what triggered it. But I do not understand why. Have a good day.

Seeing you looking at your cell triggered that? What does he do when you look at your watch?

123chris456 · Jun 19, 2013, 07:45 AM

Originally Posted by odinn7

Is this the same jerk as you posted about in your earlier questions? Why? WHY are you still dealing with this guy?

I know, I know, I guess I am just waiting for him to mess up again. And yes it is the same one. Seems like his true colors are coming out. Then he wonders why I haven't told my EX about him yet.

Thanks for your response

123chris456 · Jun 19, 2013, 07:46 AM

Originally Posted by Oliver2011

Seeing you looking at your cell triggered that? What does he do when you look at your watch?

BTW, I do not have a watch, I used the cell phone as a watch. But ultimately, I think he has trust issues because of the way his Ex-wife left him.

Thanks

odinn7 · Jun 19, 2013, 07:50 AM

You can do better.

123chris456 · Jun 19, 2013, 07:56 AM

Originally Posted by odinn7

You can do better.

Thank you and have a good day.

Homegirl 50 · Jun 19, 2013, 01:42 PM

Originally Posted by 123chris456

I know, i know, I guess I am just waiting for him to mess up again. And yes it is the same one. Seems like his true colors are coming out. Then he wonders why I haven't told my EX about him yet.

Thanks for your response

What does telling your ex about him have to do with anything? Maybe he thought you were talking to your ex. At any rate, this is childish behavior and I would not consider marrying him until you two can communicate on an adult level.
How long have you been seeing him?