[marfa_monster]

Okay, so I'm 13 and my 100th day anniversary with my boyfriend is coming up. Neither of us have had our first kiss and we both want to. Thing is, we're both really awkward around each other still. Also, since it's summer, we hardly ever see each other. What should I do? I really want to kiss him but I don't know what to do. Please help! :)

[ScottGem]

First a question, do your parents know you consider him your boyfriend? Have they given you permission to date?

From what you said, you are two children playing at adult behavior. Trying to grow up too fast. A boyfriend is not someone you hardly ever see. Kissing is overrated. You are a victim of the media that over glorifies romantic relationships. Enjoy your childhood as long as you can.

[odinn7]

What do you do... hmmmm... you wait until you are old enough to play these games. 13 is still a kid and you should still be acting like a kid and not worrying about kissing some boy.

[Homegirl 50]

You two are still awkward with each other because you are young. You don't need to be kissing. How is he your boyfriend if you hardly see each other and do your parents know you are calling each other girlfriend and boyfriend?

[marfa_monster]

You two are still awkward with each other because you are young. You don;t need to be kissing. How is he your boyfriend if you hardly see each other and do your parents know you are calling each other gf and bf?

Yes, my parents know. And so do his. We would see each other all the time and talk in school, but we're both pretty busy during the summer. We'll mouth be 14 soon, and I've read a lot of posts on this website of people having their first kiss at 14. So we hug a lot and he's kissed me on the cheek a couple times.

[marfa_monster]

Yes, my parents know. And so do his. We would see each other all the time and talk in school, but we're both pretty busy during the summer. We'll mouth be 14 soon, and I've read a lot of posts on this website of people having their first kiss at 14. So we hug a lot and he's kissed me on the cheek a couple times.

*both not mouth

[ScottGem]

I still think you are too young to be worrying about this. You need to get over your awkwardness with each other first. Let it come naturally.

[lightrose8860]

Honestly your only 13! Don't push it, just let it happen when it's the right time you'll know, I'm 17 an still never been kissed just enjoy being a kid.

[Homegirl 50]

Yes, my parents know. And so do his. We would see each other all the time and talk in school, but we're both pretty busy during the summer. We'll mouth be 14 soon, and I've read a lot of posts on this website of people having their first kiss at 14. So we hug a lot and he's kissed me on the cheek a couple times.

At your ages a kiss on the cheek is all he's ready for and neither of you need more. Stop looking at what others are doing. You will have time for kissing when you're older.

[disasterprone]

There is no need to feel obligated to have a first kiss. However, I understand how you feel. It is not unusual for a 13 year old to have a "boyfriend". Many adults may tell you that you are too young, but teenage years are yhe transition into adulthood. Having a boyfriend is a great opportunity to experiment with your feelings. But don't feel obligated to do something that doesn't feel natural yet!

[ScottGem]

It is not unusual for a 13 year old to have a "boyfriend". Many adults may tell you that you are too young, but teenage years are yhe transition into adulthood.

Do you have any statistics to support that its not unusual?

Many adults will tell a 13 yr old they are too young, because THEY ARE. Yes the teen years are a transition. But the transition doesn't start when a child turns 13. It's a gradual transition. At 13, a child can start hanging out in mixed sex groups. When they hit 14, they can start dating one on one. At 15-16, they should be able to handle the emotional attachment of a single partner. By the time they hit 17, they can start seriously looking at relationships for the long term.

Children need to be given time to grow up and mature. The entertainment media is glorifying romantic relationships to the point that children want to emulate adult behaviors before they are ready.

But the bottom line here are the child's parents. They rule at this point.

[Alty]

I agree that you're too young to date and be serious with anyone, but that's not what you asked, and since you have your parents permission to date, I'll answer your question.

When you're really ready for your first kiss it won't be awkward, you won't have to ask a bunch of strangers online how to go about getting a kiss. It will just happen when you're ready.

In other words, the fact that you have to come here and ask, that means you're not ready. The fact that you still feel awkward around him, means he's not really your boyfriend. When people date, especially after 100 days, they're not awkward around each other anymore. Not in a real relationship. You two are playing at being grown up. That's okay, that's what I'd expect from a 13 almost 14 year old. You're children, and you're playing. This won't be your last relationship, but you will eventually grow up enough to realize how immature you are now. Until then, keep your lips to yourself, and your legs crossed. No need to grow up so fast.

Good luck.