[tshepo mashigo]

I want to get adopted by a perfect family. I am from South Africa, a boy and 15 years old. Please I have been threatened by my mother.

[odinn7]

Adoption, unfortunately, doesn't work like that. If you have parents, you can't just say you want to be adopted and have it happen. Sorry.

[JudyKayTee]

Have both of your parents surrender you over to Child Protective Services. You will live in foster care for a while. Eventually you might get adopted.

Adoption is difficult at your age - no one wants to take on someone else's problem child - but it does happen.

[joypulv]

I have never seen a perfect family.
Families adopt babies and toddlers, not teens. It's expensive too.
Tell us about your troubles at home?
Maybe we can give advice about getting along with your mother. 15 is a difficult age.

[Alty]

You're 15, you'll be an adult (legally) in 3 years. People that adopt, want a child they can raise, not a teenager that's has issues at home and will be a legal adult in 3 years.

You cannot put yourself up for adoption, your parents have to do that. If they're not willing, you have to contact CPS (child protective services), and if they feel you're in danger, they'll remove you from the home, and you'll go to foster care. There will be a hearing to determine if your parents are unfit. This can take years.

In other words, you probably wouldn't get adopted, you'd more likely be in foster care until you turn 18, at which point they'll kick you out and you'll be on your own, sink or swim.

So, how bad is it in your home? Is it bad enough that living in foster care is a better option than being at home? What are you doing to contribute to the imbalance at home?