[amy1023]

So I met my best friend over 18 months ago, and we have been so close from day 1. We've been so close that I fell in love with him, and I was getting all the signs that he was too... until a few months ago, when he tells me that he is pursuing a girl.

I felt like my world were falling a part.

So they went out for 3 months. And then they broke up. We carried on as usual in between their relationship and as they broke up. I was his first call to say - we broke up... and can I come over when I return.

We then carried on as usual and things were still close and closer... and 4 months later he tells me, he met someone again...

I confronted him and he said to me... He loves me to bits, but he could never feel something for me romantically...

They've been together for 3 months... and she's made an effort to be my best friend. And she is lovely... but somehow I can't move on... and I, along with some of our friends and family can't understand why he can't wake up.

I really love him...

[Cat1864]

Amy, you didn't actually ask a question, but I am going to give you some advice.

He isn't the one who need to wake up. As harsh as it may seem, he has told you how he feels. You are a friend and probably a sister to him. You are not a romantic love interest.

I am going to suggest that you step back from this friendship for awhile. At least until you can handle your feelings for him without wanting anything in return.

Spend more time with other friends. Get involved in activities where you can meet new people. Learn to let thoughts of having a romantic relationship with him go.

Somewhere out there is someone who you can love more than this person and who will return those feelings. You won't find him if you are only focusing on the person you can't have.

Good luck.

[Homegirl 50]

You are the one who needs to wake up. He does not have those kinds of feelings for you. Spend time with other people, remove yourself from him. There is someone out there for you.